Respect means everything in relationships.
Everyone deserves to be respected. It is important in any kind of relationship. You can’t possibly love someone without respecting them and no one would want to be in a relationship where they aren’t valued. Just like everything else, how he acts around you and how he treats you will definitely tell you whether he has any regard for you or not. It’s not that hard to reach a verdict on this one. Either he respects you, or he doesn’t. And if he doesn’t, your sense of worth should tell you to walk away. Listen to it!
The following things should definitely tell you how much he truly values you;
1. He has no difficulty talking about the relationship future
This bit tends to make guys run for their lives. They’d do anything to not answer this one pressing question. But if he respects you enough, you’d know exactly where the relationship is headed and where you stand with him. He wouldn’t lead you on for nothing. If he’s not ready for something, he’d be upfront about it rather than acting out on it.
2. You do things together
Things outside the bedroom. Your relationship isn’t just physical. He wants you in every single way possible. He wants to talk to you, go places with you, spoil you and make you happy. A strong fulfilling relationship is what you’ll see him working for.
3. He agrees to disagree
You don’t see him getting worked up about any difference in opinion. He respects your individuality and your right to have your own viewpoints. Even if don’t share the same opinion as him, it doesn’t bother him. He doesn’t try to change your mind about anything. You’re both patient with each other and tolerate the disagreements. He appreciates the differences as much as the similarities.
4. He’s honest with you
He’s able to share everything with you. Be it the earliest memories he has, or the things he never talks about with other people, the past relationships, broken promises or any other thing. You never have to worry about him lying to you. He doesn’t mind answering calls or texts in front of you. In short, no secrets and no lies.
5. He doesn’t doubt you
He respects your decisions without any questions. You’re capable of thinking for yourself and making the necessary choices for yourself, and he knows that too. He wouldn’t dare question your judgment. You have his trust in everything you do, so he never tries to talk you into or out of something. You’re allowed to make your own decisions without any interference from him whatsoever.
6. He motivates you
All it takes for you to have his support is to tell him that you want to do something. Even if it’s the wackiest thing ever, he’d tell you to go for it. He constantly reminds you to take risks, even the most unimaginable ones. You could probably succeed at it and even if you don’t, he knows you can handle a few bumps in the road. And if you can’t handle it on your own, you can always lean on him as well.
7. He isn’t a no show
He’s never going to cancel on you or simply use you. The relationship means something to him, as do you. If you two have anything planned, he would never abandon you for someone or something else. Unless of course, it’s something that’s completely unavoidable and he just has to bail on you. Even then, he’d make it up to you.
8. He’s on team you
Any decisions that you make, you can always count on him to back you up. You’ve had an argument; he’s going to side with you. Whatever you tell him, he’d take your word for it. He’d never embarrass you in front of anyone by contradicting you in anyway. Your dignity matters to him, he wouldn’t let anyone harm it in any way, nor will he ever try doing anything of the sort.
9. He’s open with you about everything, Every Single Thing!
He never dodges any of your questions at any given time simply because he doesn’t want to keep anything from you. Any skeletons he may have in his closet (hopefully not literally), you’ll surely know of them. You can expect him to talk about his past, his fears, his feelings towards you and his opinions among other things. If you ask him something, you’re going to get an honest and straightforward answer even when he knows it’s not kind of reply you’d like or even want to hear. He respects you enough to not keep you in the dark.
10. He’s not the jealous type
You have his trust, so he doesn’t have to snoop around looking for proofs of your disloyalty. You can go anywhere on your own, even if there are going to be other guys there, your guy won’t be bothered. He understands that you love spending time with him, but it’s important to spend time apart as well, considering how you both have your own lives, friends, colleagues and family. You don’t have to worry about him getting jealous of anyone because he has faith in you and in the relationship that you two share. You don’t constantly have to prove your loyalty to him either.
11. He does not try to dictate you
Where he’s always there for you when you need him, keeping you from making the wrong choices, helping you with whatever it may be, he never tries to tell you how to live your life. He gives you the much needed space to make your own decisions and choices, to do things the way you want to do them. He never tries to take your matters in his hands. All this is because he trusts you to be capable of taking care of yourself and everything in your life.
12. Opinion matters to him
Be it regarding what to wear, whether to take a certain job or not, moving, trouble with friends or virtually anything else, you’re the person he comes to for advice. His decisions are still going to be his, but what you say counts. He does consider what you tell him, even when he isn’t doing what you suggest. And from time to time, he does the things you tell him to do.
If you’ve noticed any of these things in your guy, consider yourself lucky. Do not settle for anything less. Don’t compromise on your dignity. You’re treated the way you allow yourself to be treated. So if someone isn’t treating you right, there’s no reason for you to put up with it. Your respect should mean more to you than anything else. Don’t let your feelings for your guy get in the way.
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