Most people in relationships spend all their time and energy on their partner, their family and their relationship. In the end, there’s very little left for themselves. Don’t get me wrong, I believe it is essential that you do think of your partner first and put your relationship as your highest priority but I also believe in the importance of self worth.
Often in relationships, we let go of ourselves completely. We adapt and change so much that we forget our true identity and when that relationship is over, we are left thinking how were we before this relationship.
In our lives, after a few experiences, we finally realise how much exactly we should change or the things we should do to keep the relationship healthy. A balance needs to happen when it comes down to you and your partner, you both should try and do things equally for each other and themselves otherwise there will always be one person unhappy and the other expecting a little too much.
Once you realise this, here are a few things that will change in you.
1. YOU NO LONGER CHANGE JUST TO BE LIKED BY SOMEONE
You have changed yourself for far too long and too much. You finally realise that if someone has to love you and be with you, they need to love you for the way they are because only then do they love you truly, with your flaws and with your qualities.
Also, you have finally made peace with who you are, we often over-analyse and over-criticise ourselves and that’s why when our partners expect us to change bit by bit, we agree and do it. Now, that we realise that we were born to be made this way, we start to value ourselves and once you get that feeling, trust me, you’ll be content every passing day of your life.
2. YOU CAN TAKE CRITICISM EASILY
Once you realise your true worth, you know the things that you need to work on and the things you need to embrace. Also, you have matured enough to accept the reality of life, thus, when someone gives their opinion over you, you take it positively. If it’s negative and not true in your point of view, you are comfortable enough to avoid it or not let it affect you at all. If it is something you agree with, you start to work on it and are truly thankful for that person who help you discover this. You don’t let people use you as a doormat anymore
3. DON’T COMPROMISE ON YOUR BELIEFS
You finally realise that your beliefs and opinions matter. Your say is important, if not for others but to your own self and in order to stay true to yourself, you need to hold on to those beliefs and not let these beliefs wobble just because someone challenged them.
This can encompass a wide range of beliefs, including religious, moral and ethical beliefs. Your beliefs make you who you are. I am not advising you to be rigid and unchanging, what I mean to say is it is important that you don’t feel as if you are doing something that is against your beliefs.
4. YOUR RESPECT AND INTEGRITY IS FINALLY IMPORTANT TO YOU
It is crucial to maintain integrity in your role in life to maintain self-respect. Out of love and often in our immaturity, we respect and don’t expect the same in return, allowing ourselves to be walked on. It’s great to respect someone, that’s how it should be, but it is equally important to be respected.
Whatever roles you play in your life, whether as a spouse, a parent, an employee or a friend, it is finally important to you important that you keep your integrity in that role.
5. YOU ARE NOT AFRAID TO SPEND TIME ALONE
If you can’t stand to be alone by yourself, why would anyone else want to be with you? You enjoy the time you spend by yourself. For a change, you like doing things for your own self as well. There’s always that one thing we’ve put off for the mere reason that we don’t have time. You have time to get counselling, coaching, group therapy, pray, chant, write in a journal or whatever else it takes to rid yourself of any residue of past relationships. Develop yourself, discover, rejuvenate and flourish!
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