Don’t let yourself get played!
When you’re in a relationship where all rational thinking and reason has just gone down the drain and your love for the person beside you overshadows everything else, it becomes pretty hard to actually set a limit on how much you can take. You remain confused over what should be accepted as love and care and what should be addressed as emotional abuse and manipulation. Sure, we’ve all had our crazy moments, we’ve all been over the edge, and we’ve all acted like some kind of a psychopath in our relationships at one time or another!
But when the following actions seem to be a constant part of your relationship, then it’s time to be alarmed and consciously work towards changing things.
Your partner needs to know what you’re doing, where you are and who you’re with at all times
Now we’re not saying that you should be like one of those indifferent couples who have no interest whatsoever in their partner’s life. It’s good to share stuff, tell each other about your day and know the people your partner hangs out with. But if you’re always being questioned about the smallest of things, like that one time you forgot to tell him/her about the 20 minute lunch break with your co-workers or the time you didn’t mention that friend you saw for 5 minutes at the mall you were shopping in, then you seem to have a problem at hand! All of us have busy lives, lots of work to do and different people to meet. And no one has the right to make you feel guilty about not telling them things that don’t even matter to you in the first place.
They don’t leave a chance to go through your phone, Facebook chats, and basically just any medium of communication you may have with the outside world
You go to the bathroom for 5 minutes and when you return, your partner has seized the opportunity to go through each and every conversation you’ve ever had. You can’t even blame them completely because you were the one who decided to give them all your passwords in the first place. You thought it wouldn’t matter; you thought it’s just a way to build trust or a way to show them what they mean to you.
But now you’re sitting in your room, with a person who has no regard for your privacy and not only did they have the audacity to scan your phone thoroughly, they’ll also feel the need to comment on the conversations they read – whether they were with your friends, your cousins or even your little sister.
They find a reason to hate all your friends
It’s natural to feel a little awkward the first time you meet your partner’s friends, to form opinions about them which may or may not change in the future or to think with full conviction that your friends are better than theirs. But whatever you may think of them or however awkward those meetings might be, they are still the people your partner loves to be with, the people who were there for him/her long before you were even in the picture, and the people who you need to be on civil terms with whether you like it or not. If you’ve noticed that your partner has no regard for any of the above, and if all they have to say about your friends are the most negative things, then it’s a problem!
And if there ever comes a point where they’ve asked you to choose between them and your friends, then you should definitely choose the latter.
They constantly create unnecessary issues
No matter how careful you are in making sure you don’t hurt their feelings, in making it a point to never lie or cheat or make them feel unimportant in any way, you still end up having the most ridiculous and unending fights! A week ago, it was about how you forgot to say ‘I love you’ before going to sleep; two days later, it was about why you liked that particular guy or girl’s picture on Instagram and just today, it was because you didn’t notice the new haircut they just got. The list is pointless and endless.
You never seem to get any space
You meet every single day and you even spend most of your nights talking to each other on the phone but no matter how much time you spend together and how much attention you give them, they will still feel like it’s not enough and will actually accuse you of ignoring them. Lately, you feel like they’re the only one you get to meet in your free time and you have no life outside of this one relationship.
Any friends from the opposite sex are a big NO
At the beginning, they just showed a little dislike towards you being friends with people from the opposite sex. You shoved it off as something temporary but slowly and gradually, it has come to the point where you’re actually forbidden to interact or be friends with any guy or girl that they’re insecure about.
This is just plain psychotic because no person should have the right to create rules and control you over who you can interact with.
They’ve mastered the art of unlimited stalking
Somehow, they seem to know exactly where you are, who you’re with, and what you were doing, without you even telling them. You’re not sure if they’ve hired people to follow you around or if they have some sort of tracking device fixed somewhere near you but you’re too afraid to ask so you just let it go.
They can’t stop talking about all the connections and power they have
In between the conversations you have, they’ll find the chance to mention their cousin who just joined the police or about all the people who are just so afraid of them because of how powerful their family is or how easy it is for them to get any kind of information on anyone they want. Most of this will be complete bullsh*t but they’re delusional enough to actually maintain that it’s true and will try their best to influence your thoughts as well.
You’re scared of what they would do to you if you ever broke up
Let’s be honest. We know you love them but all the above actions do get overwhelming enough for you to just want to quit and leave. You’ve even tried breaking up with them a million times but every time you even hint towards a breakup, they’ll start begging you for forgiveness, and they’ll always convince you to stay, to just give them one last chance.
They’ll promise that things will be better this time, they’ll tell you how they just can’t live without you and you’ll finally give in, only to be disappointed one more time.
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