Have you ever gone on a date and then spent an endless amount of time trying to analyze and decipher the true meaning of every single thing your date did or said to you? You rewind every minute of the date in your head over and over again, trying to understand whether the other person was actually into you or whether they were just waiting for that miserable time to pass.
This is probably one of the most frustrating parts of dating and starting off a new relationship. At the beginning, it’s hard to recognize whether the other person has any strong romantic feelings for you or not. So we ask around for advice and we try to use our past experiences to try and make a guess. However, your errors in judgement might cause you to notice interest that was never there in the first place or miss the signs of attraction that were actually present.
Whatever the case might be, our personal biases and misjudgments can cause a number of problems in our love life. They might lead us to get stuck in the friend-zone or make us agree to a relationship that only revolves around sex. Our biases may even cause us to create problems in life-long friendships when we tend to confuse a friendly gesture from the opposite sex as a romantic one.
So, what can be done about this? Why is it so hard to know for sure if someone likes you? How can we ever be certain about another person’s intentions with us? Don’t worry, guys, it’s not an impossible task and we’re here to help you with it. The truth of the matter is that it’s not that hard to end up with the right judgements about people. We’re all smart and intelligent human beings (well, at least most of us are) and through the experiences we’ve lived in our lives, we acquire an inherent wisdom about judging people and their intentions.
All that’s needed to make a correct assessment is to have an open mind, to look at concrete signs of another person’s interest in us and to not let our subjective feelings and perceptions cloud our mind. If you want to have a good measure of another person’s romantic interest in you, then don’t just focus on the things they say, don’t just focus on the way they make you feel, but also try to pay attention to their following four actions:
When someone genuinely likes you, you’ll feel it in all the ways that they carry themselves around you. You’ll feel it in the way they’ll maintain constant eye contact with you during a conversation. You’ll feel it in the way they’ll instantly get comfortable around you and lean in as you share a laugh. You’ll feel it in the way their face will light up as they tell you a story about their childhood.
They’ll pay constant attention towards everything you have to say, without looking bored or looking like they have some place better to be or something better to do with their lives.
One of the most obvious indications of attraction and interest is the way a person touches you. If someone is attracted towards you, you’ll find them looking for the slightest excuse to be near you, to feel your skin against theirs, even if it’s just for a minute. Over time, they will try to increase their touching from casual handshakes to more warm embraces.
You can also judge how a person feels about you from the way they kiss you. Do you feel the passion when their lips are pressed against yours or does it feel like they’re kissing you as if it’s an everyday chore? You’ll be sure to notice a huge difference between the two.
If someone has actually fallen in love with you, they won’t be afraid to invest in the relationship, whether it’s with the amount of time they give to you or the way they make you their top priority or the amount of effort they are willing to put in to make the relationship work.
They won’t be scared of making an actual commitment to you, of introducing you to all their family and friends and of making you a permanent part of their life. They’ll look after all your needs and they’ll be there for you in the good times and the bad.
When someone is actually into you, they won’t ever take you for granted. They’ll value and cherish the things you do for them. They’ll show you they care with a thoughtful gift every once in a while or just a simple declaration of how much they admire you. And they’ll always reciprocate all the love and affection you give to them.
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