5 Ways to Move on When You Think You Can’t

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You need to do it, for your own happiness!
There might come a time in your life where you meet this unbelievably incredible person, a person you can talk to for hours without getting bored, a person who makes you feel comfortable enough to share all the intricate details of your beautiful mind with, a person whose touch you start to crave for, a person you begin picturing the rest of your life with.

So you hope and pray that this one will actually last, that this one person won’t leave you like all the others before them. And with time, you start to believe that it’s time for you to finally get the happiness that you so desperately desire. But things don’t quite turn out the way you imagined. And no matter how firmly you hold on, no matter how hard you try to make it work, it ends because life just had different plans.

You feel hopeless. You cry. You even question God on why he didn’t come through for you this one time. But the truth of the matter is that everything does happen for a reason, a reason we may not be able to comprehend at the time but a reason that was probably in our best interest. So take your time. Cry it out.
And try to use these ways to move on and work towards healing your broken heart:

Focus on yourself
It’s time for you to move forward with your life. And the most important step towards doing that is to prioritize your own needs above anything else. Stop over-analyzing and obsessing over all the things that could have been done differently.

Distance yourself from all the negative people in your life. Don’t force yourself into doing anything you don’t want. Be gentle with yourself. Allow yourself sufficient time to process the grief. And don’t forget the fact that you are the only person who can decide when you’re ready to start the healing process.

Look for a new hobby
I’m sure you’ve already been told by every single person around you to just distract your mind somehow. While these distractions are obviously a temporary fix, they can still prove to be very useful in avoiding all the grief and pain.

Instead of sitting around the house all day just thinking about your ex, put your heart and mind to better use. Sign up for those guitar lessons you always wanted. Take out that book you had stopped reading in the middle. Start working on that online blog you had planned to start. Aim to focus all your energy into staying productive and creating something extraordinary.

And with time, you’ll notice how these ‘distractions’ start to bring back the excitement and passion in your life as your pain slowly recedes in the background.

Learn to love yourself again
When you immerse yourself so deeply into a relationship, you start to forget one very important person- YOU! You stay with someone long enough and you start to identify yourself as a half and not as one complete and irreplaceable individual. You start to base all your decisions on your partner’s happiness instead of your own.

You start to sacrifice your own wants and desires in life. And slowly, you start to lose sight of who you truly were. Take this breakup as a wakeup call. Think of it as an opportunity to become whole again, and a chance to rediscover yourself! 

Put yourself out there
This is probably one of the hardest things to do after a breakup. You can’t even bring yourself to get out of bed in the morning, let alone go out to enjoy a night with your friends. But you need to make that initial effort. You need to jump headfirst into the life you’re actually meant to live. Get out of the house. Force yourself to go to the parties your friends keep inviting you to. Make a plan to watch that movie you had been waiting for.

Laugh at all the crazy things your friends are up to. Your life hasn’t ended. You may have been badly hurt, but you can’t hide behind your emotional walls forever. You still have many things that you can experience and enjoy, many reasons to smile, and many people who still love you.

Don’t give a damn about who likes you and who doesn’t
This breakup will try to destroy your self-esteem and confidence. But you HAVE to fight this! Keep reminding yourself of all your achievements. Keep reminding yourself that you’re not worthless and you never will be.

Keep reminding yourself about how much the people around you- all your friends and family- love and adore you for exactly the way you are. And keep reminding yourself that this one breakup is not going to define your entire personality.

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