Everything that is ever an ‘almost’ in life is never really quite enough. Unlike certain things, an ‘almost’ is never black and white and is rather a mesh of greys with undefined lines. The fear of commitment seen growing in people these days is one of the reasons why people like it grey. More and more people these days seem to be okay with unlabelled hit offs rather than full commitment and accountability. This is exactly why ‘almost’ relationships seem to come into the picture more often than they did before.
Such a relationship is neither a commitment nor a free hand and is instead just the possibility of an actual relationship.
The rules in such scenarios keep changing as you go along but the ‘maybe-or-may-be-not’ part remains constant. So the question now is, if it is worth it for you to wait for it to turn into something mreore? Or just move on? To help you get rid of this enigma below are mentioned are some of the major drawbacks of an ‘almost’ relationship. Check them out to see if you are ‘actually’ ready for it.
‘TALK’ ‘TALK’ ‘TALK’AND NEVER DO!
Your hopes swing back and forth like a pendulum. Your life becomes the equivalent of Newton’s cradle in motion; neither here nor there. You talk to your ‘almost’ partner from time to time about getting together and he/she talks back but none of you ever ‘really’ do. Either because both of you are too scared to take the first step or because one of you is on the fence and wants to stay there.
The plans you make about getting together, having fun and doing things that you mutually like are mostly just plans. Even though it is not taking you anywhere you still keep up the communication going “just in case,” but, nothing ever happens. It’s like the cat got your tongue but you’re almost glad that it did.
YOU CHAT FROM BEHIND THE CURTAIN:
You talk often but never in person. You feel suspended between putting yourself out there and hiding behind the curtain for a little bit longer. Same is the case with your ‘almost’ partner who is probably equally confused. You both talk about your days but never about your feelings. The frustration of not going into it with full force eats your mind and rots your heart.
The only communication you have is in the form of text messages discussing plans for the weekend that never really materialize. You are puzzled as to where you stand in the life of the other person or even if you stand in it at all. There is no way in such a relationship to know about the extent of the seriousness.
Occasional late night phone calls basically sum up the maximum one to one communication you have. This monotony becomes routine and you find yourself always looking forward to something, but there isn’t actually anything there. You are too dignified to make the first move and still you are too into it, to leave it altogether.
YOU FEEL THINGS YOU ARE NOT SURE YOU SHOULD:
Curiosity kills the cat and you! You get intrigued by the life of your ‘almost’ partner and try to probe deeper into their lifestyle. Greener meadows look extra green. You get to know things about them, and start knitting daydreams about your future together. Which would have been okay had it been a normal relationship but in the case of an almost relationship you don’t get there or anywhere, to be honest.
Instead, the only thing that happens is that you develop strong feelings about the other person and that is never a good thing when the whole scenario is so uncertain.
YOU INVEST TOO MUCH OF YOURSELF IN NOTHING:
When you’re ‘almost’ dating a person, there’s an itch called ‘hope’ in the way. This hope portrays the possibility of a serious relationship eventually, which makes you open up to that person more than you normally would.
You start investing too much emotionally in the hope that your ‘almost’ partner will crave it more and that rarely happens. What happens however is that ultimately you have to live with the fact that you have exposed yourself to a near-stranger way more than you should have.
YOU HAVE NO IDEA WHAT HAPPENED OR WHAT WAS HAPPENING:
Your life seems to be an unanswered question. You dive in a confusing relationship in the hopes of forming an ‘actual’ relationship out of it but all you get in turn is more confusion. Eventually you are stranded with memories that are nothing but strings of texts and WhatApp messages. You don’t know how you ended up in such a state not that you knew why you got into it in the first place. Your mind gets stuck on trying to come up with answers as to why it didn’t happen.
As quickly as someone had come into your life, they disappear. You waste your time wondering why it did not work out when you had all the potential beginnings. It frustrates you to think how you ‘almost’ dated, but not even close. What was initially a sweet confusion tainted by hope and optimism now turns into a bitter experience that you can neither swallow nor spit. It is a weird phenomenon that can never be fully explained. It’s on the record and at the same time off of it.
It’s ambiguous; it’s a fool’s paradise and a nave’s mistake. It happens and it never does.
‘Almost’ relationships in plain words are cruel for your existence. It’s like watering a cactus to ultimately fall on its thorns. It is better to either jump into it fully or not at all because ‘almost’ is never really a thing. It is just going to gradually kill your chances of finding true love because probably ‘the one’ will get tired of waiting for you and leave while you are busy with ‘the almost’.
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