Relationship can be beautiful when it is done right. Love is one of the most sought-after human experiences in the history of civilization. People always crave love and will always want their love to be manifested in some shape or form. That’s why people get into relationships because they feel like it would be a perfect manifestation of a love that they have for another human being.
However, the sad truth is that some relationships were just never meant to have seen the light of day. There are thousands, if not millions, of relationships in the world today that are just too toxic for anyone to handle. These relationships are built on faulty foundations of distrust, abuse, and greed. It’s best to do away with relationships like these should you ever find yourself unlucky enough to be engaged in one. Here are the 10 most unforgivable things in a relationship:
1. Over-Controlling Partners
Primarily, you want to get into relationships where you can both nurture and grow with each other. You don’t want a partner who is overbearing and is constantly breathing down your neck. You deserve to be with someone who doesn’t try to control and manipulate everything that you do. You deserve someone who is selfless and understands your needs as an individual.
2. Broken Trusts
Honesty is a rare commodity in today’s world. Do not expect it to come from cheap people. Trust is an absolutely vital piece when building a relationship. Everything you do as a couple has to be built on a foundation of trust. You have to be able to trust one another to make the right decisions and to not hurt each other. Once that trust is broken, there’s no repairing it to go back to the way it used to be. No relationship can survive when trust is undervalued.
It’s sometimes cute and endearing to feel like you’re needed. It makes you feel importance and it gives you a sense of purpose in this world. However, there is a line between being sometimes a little bit need and just being downright over-dependent. You want a partner who is strong enough to stand on his/her own two feet. You don’t want someone who will immediately crumble at the thought of you gone. You have your own life to live and your own problems to deal with. The baggage of carrying the dead weight of another person is just too much for any mortal being to bear.
4. When Your Partner Refuses to Discuss Your Future
In order for you to grow in a relationship, you have to know where you’re going. You have to be able to plot out the plans you have for yourself in life and whether or not your partner has a place in it. When you find the conversations about your future to be a little one-sided, maybe it’s time for you to rethink your entire relationship.
5. Abusive Language
No one should ever be subject to abusive language, especially two couples who are in a relationship. Words can make huge dents to one’s emotional well-being, and once abusive language is being used in a relationship, take it as a red flag to find the emergency exit immediately. It’s not worth being with someone who has no value for words or the meanings behind them. You don’t want to subject yourself to emotional torture by way of vulgar language.
6. When You Feel Like You’re Never Heard
Communication is another important building block for successful relationships. Communication is always a two-way street, and when you feel like you’re not being heard, then that’s a bad sign. You need a partner who makes the effort to actually listen to you and understand your feelings.
7. Emotional Unavailability
Sometimes, it can take a lot of time to crack someone’s emotional shell. It can be especially difficult for introverts to open up about themselves and loosen up. However, there is a limit to that. When you find that you’re with someone who just refuses to be in touch with their emotions and how they feel about you, then it’s really not a relationship that’s worth fighting for.
8. Negativity and Toxicity
There is always room for a little pessimism and negative reinforcement in the world. It helps balances things out. But it’s a different thing entirely when the negativity in the relationship just ends up becoming too toxic to bear. The world is a difficult enough place to live in as is, and when you find yourself having to put up with additional struggles in a relationship, just save yourself the trouble.
9. When You’re Constantly Deprioritized
It’s not good when you constantly prioritize your partner over everything else in life. But it’s really bad when you never find yourself to be the priority at all. When your partner starts choosing friends or hobbies over you on a constant basis, I think it’s time for you to just move on.
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