Marriage is commitment. Everyone knows that; and commitment certainly doesn’t come easily. Marriage takes a lot of hard work, and it’s not always going to be smooth-sailing.
It’s very important the before you establish a marital union with someone, you should be fairly comfortable with facing life together as a couple. You should have had experiences of past trials and hardships. You have to know how you’re going to deal with future problems, because if not, your marriage is going to end up suffering more than it should.
Is there a checklist or a recipe for crafting the perfect marriage? Not necessarily. There is absolutely no way to fully prepare for marriage. A marital union is always going to be a toss-up no matter how strong your relationship is. There’s no way of knowing whether your marriage is going to go the distance or not. But there are some things that you could do to improve your chances. There’s no harm in trying them, right? At the end of the day, following the tips in this article will only strengthen your relationship. Here are 14 things you should do before getting married.
1. Go on a trip together.
Take a vacation together. This will be your initial practice as a couple trying to traverse unfamiliar territory. You’re both placed outside of your comfort zones and you will learn so much more about each other in the process. There are no limits to what you can learn about your partner when you go on a vacation together.
2. Talk about the prospect of having children.
Get the talk out of the way. Do you want kids in the future? If so, how many? How will your parenting roles work? These are issues that you want to tackle early on in a relationship. You don’t want to get married to each other only to discover that you don’t see eye to eye when it comes to having children.
3. Have a fight.
Fights are healthy for relationships. They’re a true test for how couples are able to overcome disagreements and hardships. They also show how willing couples are to make compromises. If you are able to swallow your pride and take a loss every once in a while, then that’s a good sign.
4. Take a break and spend some time away from each other.
Absence makes the heart grow fonder, right? But in all seriousness. You learn so much more about yourself whenever you’re alone. You have to be able to embark on occasional spurts of self-discovery if you want to know more about the dynamics of your relationship.
5. Have a shared responsibility.
It doesn’t have to be so serious. You can try maintaining a garden together, or try owning a pet. It’s a great way to practice having shared responsibilities together. It’s also a great test of teamwork and synergy in your relationship.
6. Talk about chores and relationship roles.
Gone are the traditional mindsets of having women stay at home to be housewives while men go to work and earn the bacon. There’s a shift towards having a level playing field between genders and you can’t just assume what your roles are going to be as a couple. You have to talk it out and discuss your roles in your relationship in-depth.
7. Talk about your future plans and life goals.
What are your dreams and aspirations? Do you have high ambitions concerning the corporate ladder? Do you have dreams for your artistic prowess? What are your plans in life? You have to be able to know if the plans that you have for your individual selves will coincide with each other.
8. Have a conversation about finances.
Money is important. Don’t believe anyone who says otherwise. Marital relationships are ending every day because of financial issues. You have to have a plan for your finances before you start getting serious about getting married.
9. Get closer to each other’s families.
If you truly love someone to the point of marriage, you should have no problem with having him/her mingle with your family. You’re practically inheriting each other’s families in a marriage anyway.
10. Get closer to each other’s friends.
You’re inheriting each other’s friends too. You should start getting comfortable with being in each other’s social circles.
11. Live together.
For more traditional couples, living together before marriage is frowned upon. But for the more liberal and open-minded couples, you could use living together as a chance for you to play house. It’s great practice for you as a couple to actually have shared spaces.
12. Talk about where you’re going to be living together.
If you’re not yet living together, or even if you are, you might want to discuss the prospect of where the both of you want to start building your lives together.
13. Unleash the skeletons in your closet.
No secrets. The best marriages are always built on total honesty. Unleash all the skeletons in your closet and air all your dirty laundry. You don’t ever want to enter a marriage with lies and deceit.
14. Discuss the issue of names.
Will the girl be keeping her name? Does the man want her to take his name? Don’t wait until the last minute to talk about it. While this may be a trivial issue to some, it’s an important issue to others so it’s better to be safe and talk about it early on.
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