It can be very emotionally draining to get into a fight with a person that you love. Your anger can sometimes get the best of you and the both of you can end up saying things that you’re going to regret saying. Fights between people in loving relationships are more likely than not to result in hurt feelings and bruised egos.
The worst part is that even if fights do end up getting resolved, the remains of hurt emotions are going to stay. Perhaps in the heat of the moment, you will have both ended up saying things that cause significant emotional damage to the other. This kind of damage is irreparable no matter what the circumstance.
Fights can create lots of tension in the relationship. And everyone knows that tension is what causes things to break or get destroyed. This tension creates a rift and distance between two people; an emotional distance that stymies the growth of the couple. The longer the tension persists in a relationship, then the bigger the potential for it to cause permanent damage in the union. That’s why it should be in the best interest for all couples to resolve conflicts quickly or just avoid them altogether.
However, it is important to understand that not all fights or conflicts are always going to be unhealthy. There are some fights and conflicts that some people need to undergo in order for their relationships to grow stronger. Being able to compromise is a big aspect of any relationship and with healthy disagreements, couples can find a way to find some middle ground and foster some kind of harmony and balance with each other.
The truth of the matter is that conflicts are going to be inevitable in whatever kind of relationship in the world. It’s because the individuality of human beings create room for ideological clashes, and these clashes often result in increased tensions. However, there are ways you can minimize the likelihood of you and your partner to get into fights. All you have to do is follow the tips listed on here, and you will substantially increase the chances of you creating a smooth-flowing relationship with your partner.
1. Swallow your pride and always apologize whenever you realize that you’ve screwed up.
Be the better person. Take the high road. Always apologize whenever you find yourself making a mistake. Don’t be a brat about it. Apologies might make it seem like a blow to your character, but the truth is that your partner will always love you more for being able to swallow your pride. Being willing to make apologies is a sign that you have a developed sense of maturity. The best kinds of relationships thrive on mature couples who are able to put the needs of the relationship above their own.
2. Always be willing to make compromises with your partner.
Compromise is the name of the game. When you get into a relationship with someone, you lose all sense of complete independence. You have to understand that you are sharing huge parts of yourself with another person. You are choosing to open yourself up and to let someone else inside of your heart. You might not necessarily be okay with everything that your partner is bringing to the table, but you always have to be willing to make some compromises here and there. Be mature enough to talk things out and find a middle ground where both of you can be happy with the choices you make in the relationship.
3. Be more understanding of the times your partner treats you ‘badly’.
Not everything has to always be about you. If your partner is acting particularly cold towards you, it may not necessarily be because of you. Just because your partner isn’t acting all bubbly and endearing doesn’t necessarily mean he/she is mad at you. You have to take into consideration that your partner is also human and is prone to having bad days just like the rest of us. Instead of being all combative and confrontational when your partner is in a bad mood, try being more sensitive and empathetic. Approach your partner with love and kindness, and ask how you can be of help.
4. Respect the boundaries that you have set for one another.
Just because you are “sharing” your life with another person when you choose to get into a relationship doesn’t necessarily mean you have to give up your individuality entirely. You are still entitled to your boundaries and your desires for solitude every once in a while. You and your partner have to establish your boundaries early on in the relationship and you always have to respect them.
5. Always be sensitive and mindful of your words and actions.
Words and gestures can impact people in ways that we don’t always understand. That is why you must always be extra careful with the language that you use when you’re talking to your partner. You don’t want any unnecessary arguments to arise as a result of misunderstandings or tactless words.
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