10 Self-Sabotaging Things You’re Doing That Are Definitely Keeping You Single

Stop sabotaging your life and your relationship!
This is dedicated to all the luckless lovers out there. If you’re the type of person who just seems to always be in a rut when it comes to love, be comforted in the fact that you are not alone. There are plenty of you who just keep striking out in the dating scene. While each individual case may be different, there are some trends here that are consistent within people who just never find success in relationships. There are some very basic principles that you need to adhere to if you are to successfully date potential mates.

There are many factors that go into whether relationships succeed or not. Sometimes, it’s beyond the control of the people involved. The universe may have other plans for you and there’s nothing that you can do about that. However, a lot of times, relationships will fail just purely because someone in the relationship screwed up somewhere along the way. If you happen to find yourself on the losing end of many failed relationships, then maybe you should start considering the possibility that you’re the problem.

Accept this and understand that you need to develop into a more mature person before you can actually start finding some success in your dating life. Make some tweaks to your daily habits and start reassessing if you really are the person that you should be. You shouldn’t necessarily change who you are per se. You just need to get rid of some bad habits that are preventing you from actually landing a solid love story with someone. Here are a few things that you might be doing that is keeping you from actually finding love in life.

1. You are still in close contact with your exes.
If you are going to want to start on the right foot with prospective mates, then you have to make sure that you burn all bridges with your exes beforehand. A lot of people will be hesitant to date a person who is still in close contact with previous flames.

2. You compare the people you date to your exes.
Just learn to leave your exes out of the equation. Don’t ever make the mistake of using your ex as a benchmark for your current relationship. You are only asking for trouble when you start making comparisons out of the blue.

3. You try to play it too cool; you act too hard to get.

Sometimes, it helps to just be transparent about your feelings. You don’t want to keep giving people the cold shoulder even though deep down inside, you’re genuinely interested. It’s cool to play hard to get to some extent, but not to the point wherein you’re completely turning people off.

4. You have an unreasonable checklist for prospective mates.
Stop treating your dates like they have to pass some sort of test that you’re giving them. Just stop being so overly anal about what you’re looking for in a date. Learn to be more flexible and find some middle ground. Your dream relationship only exists in places outside of reality. You have to acknowledge that in the real world, no one is ever going to be perfect.

5. You aren’t willing to push through the hard times in a relationship.

Relationships aren’t always just going to be ups. There will be lots of challenging and difficult patches that you are going to have to endure. Stop being the kind of person who bails just when things start getting rough. Learn to deal with your troubles like an adult and find a way to power through.

6. You whine too much about how unlucky in love you are.
Nobody likes a whiner. It’s plain and simple. Your negativity just attracts negativity.

7. You have addiction problems.
It can be very difficult to date someone who is having problems with addiction. Perhaps you should start seeing a professional to help you overcome your addictions. It doesn’t matter whether your addiction is to drugs or alcohol, it’s still an addiction; and you still need help.

8. You read too much into things.

Stop sensationalizing every single gesture in the relationship. Stop trying to put too much meaning into simple words. Sometimes, you just have to take things as they are. There’s no need to just keep on blowing everything out of proportion. It’s very irritating to the people who are around you.

9. You are still afraid to commit to relationships.
Commitment is a big deal in relationships. If you’re the kind of person who just has trouble making any commitments when it comes to love, then there’s no wonder you’re not finding any success in it. You always have to commit yourself to the things that you want in life. And you have to always work hard to acquire the deepest desires of your heart.

10. You take a pessimistic view on the relationship from the start.
Stop being a negative Nancy. Take a more optimistic view of your love life and attract some positivity from the universe. When you think happy thoughts, then that energy is going to emanate from you like the glow of the sun. 

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