6 Signs You Deserve More Respect In Your Relationship (and How to Get It)

Respect is about your partner and you working together to make sure that your needs are being met, and a lack of that is one of the 6 signs that you deserve more respect in your relationship. Part of that cooperation with your partner requires excellent communication between you and your partner to voice your needs.

6 SIGNS YOU DESERVE MORE RESPECT IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP (AND HOW TO GET IT)

Traditional wisdom has it that women want love out of a relationship, and men want respect, but it turns out that both men and women want respect. Respect is so important to our happiness that researchers at the Haas School of Business at the University of California, Berkeley found that respect was more highly prized than money in determining happiness. Just having more money didn’t make a person happy if they didn’t also have the respect of their social circles.

Having the respect of your partner is certainly going to make you happier than if you don’t get the respect you deserve. You may put up with being disrespected for a while, but when you realize that you deserve to be treated equally with your mate, and if you have not been treated equally, you should work to get it with your current partner or find respect somewhere else. Here are 6 of the signs that you deserve more respect in your relationship.

1. YOUR PARTNER DOESN’T LISTEN

Communication is a two way street. So that means talking to express your needs and desires and listening for the unmet needs of your partner. Both of you say what you need of the other person, and say specific ways that your partner can help you fulfill those needs. If you either can’t express your needs clearly, or your partner doesn’t give you what you need, it’s a sign that you deserve someone attentive and who will give you the respect that you deserve.

2. YOUR PARTNER KEEPS THINGS FROM YOU

Researchers at Texas Tech University looked at measuring levels of respect in close relationships. They found that high levels of respect correlated with the depth of expressed love, similar sexual attitudes, relationship satisfaction, commitment, and self-disclosure. Self-disclosure means the things that you tell your partner about yourself. If your partner is withholding information about themselves, it erodes the trust that you have as a couple, and withholding information is disrespectful to the bond that you share.

3. YOUR PARTNER IS ONLY FOCUSED ON THEIR OWN NEEDS

You deserve more respect in your relationship if your partner never asks you what you need, of if you have expressed it, ignores what you have asked them to do to meet your needs. When one partner if focused only on their own needs, the partnership is one-sided, and the selfish partner has more power in the relationship than the other one. The partner with less power can be manipulated by the other one and this power imbalance is a sign that you deserve more respect in your relationship.

4. YOUR PARTNER BLAMES YOU
Things go wrong and accidents happen, from missing an entry in the checkbook to forgetting to take out the trash, you will both be responsible for at least one screw up. The difference in a relationship where you deserve more respect is that your partner holds the slip ups against you rather than forgiving and forgetting.

‘This wouldn’t have happened if you had/hadn’t ____,’ ‘This is all your fault,’ or ‘You’re the reason this is happening.’ If any of these phrases sound familiar, it’s a sign you deserve more respect in your relationship. Point out that although you may have flaws, your partner is partly responsible for the problems in the relationship too.

5. WHAT YOUR PARTNER SAYS HURTS YOUR FEELINGS

A betrayal that hurts your feelings is a sign that you deserve more respect in your relationship. Betrayals can be anything that crosses your personal boundaries or that intentionally is meant to hurt you. Researchers studying the relationship between betrayal trauma and romantic relationship functioning found that ‘Betrayal traumas were also shown to be negatively related to partner respect and not significantly associated with dedication and relationship adjustment. Anxious attachment and psychological well-being were significant mediators for the relationship between betrayal traumas and perceived respect.’

6. YOUR PARTNER SHAMES YOU

Using belittling language toward you is a sure sign that you deserve more respect in your relationship. If your partner makes you feel bad for your words or actions and you’ve done nothing to intentionally harm them, you should take this as a warning sign. Being shamed, blamed, or belittled is right on the border with emotionally abusive behavior. If you feel afraid of your partner, you should trust your gut, seek a safe place immediately, and call the national domestic violence abuse hotline at 1-800-799-7233 for resources and information on getting out of an abusive relationship.

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