Motherhood, particularly the idea of motherhood, can be a scary thing. While you might want to be a mom, see yourself as a mom, and even act sometimes like a mom — to bring a kid into this world is a big leap of faith. But what kind of mom will you be?
Strengths as a mom: Confidence, self-awareness, strength, and fearlessness
Weaknesses as a mom: Competitiveness, anger, tunnel vision, obsessiveness, vanity and self-centeredness
Your parenting style: Hello, warrior mama! Because the Aries mother does everything with a fierce signature style, you’ll charge into parenthood headfirst, intent on leaving your mark. Ruled by red-hot Mars, Aries approach everything in life as if going into battle — alive, alert, and in it to win it. Motherhood’s not for sissies, and good thing you’ve never fit that description. There’s a diva in every Aries woman, and your confidence never leaves you for long — even if that diva happens to have a milk stain on her Fendi jacket or Ritz bits in her blowout.
The strangest part of motherhood, especially in the early years, is experiencing another human being’s total dependence on you. Aries is one of the most self-directed signs, and you’re comfortable putting your own needs first. But ranking another person’s agenda before your own — and a tiny person’s at that? Well, that takes a bit of an adjustment. No matter how much you adore your little chickadee, one thing is clear: You are two distinct and separate human beings.
Frankly, that is a healthy attitude for the most part. Although you may be guilty of expecting too much self-sufficiency from your kids, you’re great at modeling that very trait for them. Aries never asks for permission to be yourself or to pursue your goals. A martyr mom you ain’t! Forever achieving and striving, you’re a powerful role model of lifelong learning, a one-woman accomplishment machine — the ultimate glass-ceiling breaker.
Strengths as a mom: Stability, good taste, common sense, hard worker
Weaknesses as a mom: Indulgence, materialism, mood swings, vanity
Your parenting style: Taurus is the original “mullet mama” — business in the front, party in the back. Some days, you lead with a stern demeanor that puts the fear of God, traffic, and creepy strangers in your kid. But once you’re sure everyone’s safe and sound, it’s party time! The Taurus mother is selectively staunch and, yes, downright rigid on a couple of key issues. There’s an old-fashioned girl in every Taurus, and you simply won’t budge on a few of your standards. But behind that firm facade is a bawdy nature goddess who’s refreshingly down to earth. You’re the mom who might force your kids to stay in Sunday school until adulthood but will also let them witness a home birth or ride a motorcycle when they’re twelve.
Taurus is the zodiac’s budgeter and wise spender. You believe in return on investment. So if you devote years of your life to raising a child, you expect to be acknowledged for it! You’ll raise your kids to have good manners, respect authority, and if possible, to idolize you. At the very least, you intend to occupy a VIP pedestal marked mother for the rest of their lives. While you hope to be close with your children, you won’t sacrifice respect to be their best friend. There’s a (well-manicured) iron fist in that Italian leather glove — even if it takes a lot for you to raise that fist. As long as your kids don’t embarrass you publicly, violate one of your core values, or outright disrespect you, there shouldn’t be any problems. Simple enough, right?
Motherhood makes great use of your managerial qualities, which most Taurus women come by naturally. With your flair for practical details and businesslike nature, you’re the COO of your clan. You love to run people’s lives — heck, you’ve been doing it for your girlfriends and family long enough. The structured rhythm of child rearing feels natural to you, unlike for many other zodiac signs. Even Taurus moms who run late for social engagements (and we know quite a few) will never be tardy applying for an elite arts camp scholarship, getting on the private school waiting list, or planning a posh first birthday party for their little one (and his 75 closest aunts, uncles, cousins, et al.). When it comes to your top parenting priorities, you’re as precise as a laser.
Strengths as a mom: Versatility, youthfulness, curiosity, open-mindedness, originality, creativity
Weaknesses as a mom: Inconsistency, lack of boundaries, tendency to contradict self, impatience, talking or lecturing instead of listening
Your parenting style: Ah, to be a mom of many personalities — complex and even contradictory at times but certainly never boring. Such is the way of the Gemini mama, ruled by the zodiac’s Twins. Varied and versatile, you keep your family guessing what you’ll say or do next. There’s never a dull moment under your roof — even though some household members wouldn’t mind one every now and then!
Since your standards can be subject to change without notice, your rigidity is tempered with a bold streak of the opposite. You’ll scour the ingredient list of your baby wash but take the kid to a jazz club or raise her in a smog-filled metropolis. Let’s face it: You can’t help but contradict yourself at times. If you were totally principled, you wouldn’t be an airy, unpredictable Gemini. So you might just buckle that rear-facing car seat into a Prius (adorned with peace-symbol and namaste bumper stickers), and drive your babe to an elite Mommy & Me group in the nicest part of town. Or your tightly run ship happens to be on an actual ship … because you’ve decide to spend your child’s first year
living on a houseboat. With Geminis, you just never know.
While Geminis have a rep for being breezy and hard to pin down, they can actually be quite anxious. Your sign is ruled by Mercury, planet of communication and the intellect, so your brain simply never shuts off. As a result of all this mental energy, you might just be the most eccentric mom on the block — or the most opinionated. Hey, your brand of maternal instinct is a unique concoction.
Strengths as a mom: Your playfulness, leadership, creativity, confidence
Weaknesses as a mom: Self-centeredness, drama, too much energy, Pollyanna tendencies
Your parenting style: Lights, camera, action! The creative and dramatic Leo mama leaves her signature stamp wherever she goes. Parenting is the ultimate personal expression for you, Leo — a job you throw yourself into, heart and soul. Leos tend to be hands-on mothers, involved in every aspect of their children’s lives. You take pride in raising capable, successful citizens who will grow up and do great things in the world.
While you’re not a mean mom by any stretch, Leo, you can be stern about your standards. You’re a tough act to follow, since you tend to be a high achiever. Our Leo friend Patricia Moreno kept her fitness brand Sati Life thriving — training teachers, giving classes, filming workout videos — while juggling a toddler and infant twins. You hold yourself to very lofty standards (and meet them effortlessly), so you may not realize when you’re pushing your kids too hard. Or maybe you do. And when your kid grows up to be a successful doctor, lawyer, businessperson, artist, or whatever, he’ll thank you. The return on investment is worth it! Besides, your innate sense of entitlement can work to everyone’s advantage, gaining your family access to exclusive schools, arts programs, and elite summer camps. Nothing can sway you when you’re on a mission, and even if your kids turn out to be your polar opposite in career, lifestyle, or beliefs, you’ll still have played a strong role in their upbringing.
Not that you won’t play as hard as you work. When a Leo mom decides to celebrate, she goes all out! You’re a consummate event planner: No party or pile of presents can rival a Leo mother’s lavish layout. Giving gifts is a grand occasion, and you shine in this area. Maybe some people think you’re spoiling your children. To you, presents are a way of acknowledging that you know someone and took the time to find something beautiful to show it.
Whether you lavish your kids with hugs and kisses, or express love by faithfully show- ing up for every important moment, there’s no question: your children are truly your pride and joy. So go forth: Cuddle and coddle your lion cubs. Just don’t forget to teach them how to hunt and forage for themselves. They need survival skills as much as they need your fierce matriarchal protection. While a tight-knit family is a blessing, you also need to loosen the reins, letting your progeny go off and explore the wild world on their own.
Strengths as a mom: Organization and structure, common sense, healthy habits, intellect
Weaknesses as a mom: Judgmental tendencies, worry and neuroses, self-righteousness, tendency to overanalyze
Your parenting style: Upright/free-spirited mommy. The Virgo mother is a curious mix of contrasts. In some ways, motherhood plays to your orderly Virgo tendencies, giving you an excuse to plan, direct, and micromanage. At other moments, it brings out let loose and play. While some Virgos take to motherhood like fish to water, swapping your indie rock playlist for Yo Gabba Gabba! jams, others require an adjustment, especially if they’re a bookish or introverted Virgo who cherishes personal space. The invasion of privacy that comes along with children, not to mention the land grab on your intellectual time, well, let’s be honest: the rewards don’t always balance out the loss. The downshift from PhD to ABC can be tough for brainy babes of the Virgo persuasion.
But despite your obsessive nature, you also have a relaxed side. Your fourth house of motherhood is ruled by Sagittarius, the sign of travel, adventure, wisdom, and the higher mind. This bohemian effect offsets your anxiety and tunnel vision. It helps you see the bigger picture and trust that your kids will turn out okay. Sagittarius is an advice giver, so its influence in your chart makes you even more prone to be a walking mommy search engine among your friends. It also awakens your humorous and philosophical side, help- ing you see motherhood as a grand adventure. While some women suddenly feel “old” and weighted with responsibility as mothers, your children can lighten you up. “I am proud that my kids laugh all the time and they laugh with me, at me,” says Virgo mama Karen. “We have fun.”
You might read up on the work of the late pediatrician and psychoanalyst Donald Winnicott, who developed the theory of the “good enough mother.” As he believed, the way to be a good mother is to be just that, a good-enough mother — human, three-dimensional, providing a safe and nurturing environment, but not catering to your child’s every need, treating her like the center of the universe, or depleting yourself. That can be a challenge for Virgos, who like to do everything perfectly. But if motherhood can teach you anything, it’s how to ease up your self-critical tendencies and cut yourself some well-deserved slack.
Strengths as a mom: Strength, resilience, intuition, willpower
Weaknesses as a mom: Control, paranoia, emotional unavailability, obsessiveness, intensity to a fault
Your parenting style: The Scorpio mother is a magnetic mama — a curious mix of quirky and controlling, inspiring and intimidating. Depending on your mood, your kids may cling to you — or scurry away from your wrath. Not that you’d ever turn the full wrath on them. One “death stare” from a Scorpio mom is all it takes to keep a willful child in line. Fiercely protective, you guard your children with irrepressible spirit and strength. You’ve got a streak of Carmela Soprano in you: a mafia matriarch (in stilettos) that nobody dares to cross twice.
Most Scorpios take to motherhood quickly. You’re an emotional water sign, after all, and your nurturing qualities are automatic. Although Scorpios can be slow to warm up to the rest of the world, your child will melt your defenses in a heartbeat. Soon enough, the hard part isn’t getting attached — it’s letting go.
In the meantime, though, you’ll work hard to ensure that your child’s life is crafted with precision. Like Scorpio “mom-ager” Kris Jenner with her Kardashian kids, you’ll work hard to ensure that your clan has a rock-solid future — whether that means sending them to an elite prep school, buying an “investment property” they can live in someday, or (ahem) scoring them hot product endorsement deals. Scorpio rules the zodiac’s eighth house of wealth, joint ventures, and long-term finance. Fiscal security is extremely important to you, and motherhood makes you work that much harder to lock it in for your children. “I had my daughter’s college fund set up before she was born,” says Meredith, the Scorpio mom of a 7-month-old. “I’m the one who brought up that we needed to put money aside and make sure that her college is paid for — no matter what.”
Life with Scorpio moms may be an exhausting game of chess, but the queen trumps all in the end. Your plotting, controlling, maneuvering, and sidestepping are part of a divine dance between you and the universe, which whispers a little more loudly in your ear than any other sign’s. Scorpio is one of the zodiac’s most intuitive (and even psychic) members, and you tend to faithfully trust your own inner guidance system. After all, it seldom steers you wrong.
Strengths as a mom: Sensitivity, comfort, good taste, devotion, sentimentality
Weaknesses as a mom: Overprotectiveness, mood swings, fearfulness, jealousy
Your parenting style: As the sign that rules all things matriarchal, you’re the zodiac’s mother superior. For most Cancer women, maternal instincts are hardwired into their cosmic DNA. From an early age, you’ve been a nurturer — to friends, siblings, dolls, pets, anyone needing a maternal touch. Some signs are ambivalent about children, but most Cancer women feel they were born for the job. You’re the mom who could have an at-home birth, train as a doula, and breast-feed your kid until it teeters on unnatural. Hello, La Leche League president!
Your fourth house of motherhood is ruled by balanced, beauty-loving Libra, the sign of relationships. This gives you an idealistic approach to family — and a flair for creating a pretty, comfortable home. You’re deeply invested in your relationship with your children and will likely be their lifelong confidante. Even if you’re a pierced and tattooed parent — like Cancer Ariel Gore, creator of the Hip Mama enterprise — you’re still the ultimate mom on the inside.
Becoming a mother has healthy side effects for your social life. Since Cancers can be a little shy or reserved upfront, your kids provide the perfect excuse to engage with other parents. Your budding social circle could be filled with the moms of your children’s friends or with families you meet through nursery school outings, PTA, and your children’s sports teams. Talking about your kids lets you quietly screen people before deciding that they’re worthy of your trust. When you hear their views on schooling, discipline, dietary limits, and the like, you get a keen sense of their values and whether they’re compatible with yours. Eventually, you’ll open up and start talking more about yourself with a few of them, allowing a genuine friendship to unfold. A true sign of trust is often when you invite someone into your home. There’s no casual (play)dating happening in your household. Not just anyone makes it into a Cancer’s sanctuary!
Can you be a tiny bit of a snob? Yes. But Cancers are true-blue friends whose bonds be- come as close as family over time. You don’t let people into your world easily — but once they’re in, they’re in. You expect a high degree of loyalty when you’ve opened your heart. Becoming your friend is a life sentence, and you’ll cherish the bonds you form even more once children are in the picture.
Strengths as a mom: Patience, refinery, good taste, fairness
Weaknesses as a mom: Inconsistency, snobbery, vanity
Your parenting style: You know that elusive “balance” that Libra, the sign of the swinging scales, is forever seeking? Motherhood might be the very thing that helps you find your center point, bringing you out of self-induced chaos into the calm “eye of the storm.” Well, some days, anyhow. Born under a languid sign famous for procrastinating and stopping to smell every single rose (not that there’s anything wrong with that), you suddenly become structured and even downright type-A as a mom.
Libra is the zodiac’s sign of relationships, and — as much as this defies any self-help book written since 1982 — you’re happiest when you live for another person. Children give you the perfect excuse to do just that. Organizing your life around, well, organizing their lives, is a habit you take to like a mermaid to water.
You love all the stereotypical trappings of childhood — from oversize dollhouses and trucks to elaborate tea parties and train tracks. Tasteful toys may litter your well-appointed parlor when your kids are young. Libras don’t like to rush, and you have a strong ability to really be in the moment with your kids. You’re amused by their antics and in love with their quirks and questions — happy to spend hours explaining exactly why the sky is blue or helping them pinpoint the exact location of heaven when a pet goldfish dies.
In that regard, Libra moms model self-care for your children, dressing well and re- fusing to ‘let yourself go’ just because you’ve had a baby. You’ll also make sure your children are as well-appointed as you’d like to be, dressing them in adorably stylish outfits. You can be more than a touch vain at moments, also making your kids part of your personal vanity project at times. Remind yourself periodically that they weren’t born to be your showpieces or personal ambassadors. Strive for a healthy state of interdependence — where individuality and separateness are respected, just as deeply as times of togetherness are cherished.
Strengths as a mom: Planning, structure, traditional values, consistency, patience, thoughtfulness
Weaknesses as a mom: Worry and anxiety, overly cautious, pessimism, self-doubt, seriousness to a fault
Your parenting style: Who’s your daddy, er, mommy? Since Capricorn is the zodiac’s ‘father’ sign, this adds an interesting twist to your mothering style. In stereotypical terms, you may be more of the dad than the mom — or both parents rolled into one. Not that you don’t have a sentimental or feminine side, but Capricorn’s ruling planet is Saturn, the stern taskmaster associated with authority, masculinity, and structure. You’re not afraid to set limits or to teach your kids necessary life lessons. You’d like to be close to your children, but you don’t need to be best friends. Hierarchy based on age is fine with you. As a traditional sign, you respect your own parents (even if you don’t like them) and may be quite conventional.
You’re more a tough-love type of mom who delivers stern lectures and stiff hugs. You might not be the most touchy-feely person, preferring to show your devotion through your actions rather than affection. How this plays out depends a lot on your own upbringing. Capricorns tend to be “old souls” who play the dutiful soldier in their families, keeping a lot of their emotions inside. Your own childhood may have been colored by hard experiences or hefty responsibility placed on your small shoulders (perhaps self-imposed, as many Cap kids are overachievers). Or maybe your parents worked hard to provide for your needs. Now you feel a deep obligation to repay them by succeeding.
There’s a “steel magnolia” in every Capricorn mom. Like Katie Couric and Michelle Obama, you exude feminine beauty layered over deep reserves of strength. You’re the rock of your clan, the force that holds everything together through thick and thin. It was Capricorn Donna Summer who sang “She Works Hard for the Money,” and that’s certainly true for you. Capricorn is the zodiac’s provider sign, and with your solid work ethic you could be the family breadwinner. Escape from your obligations whenever possible so you don’t miss your little one’s fleeting moments of cuteness. Pay attention when people tell you that “it goes by so fast.” They’re not kidding.
Strengths as a mom: Youthfulness, open-mindedness, originality, fairness
Weaknesses as a mom: Boundaries, turbulence and drama, detachment, overly permissive tendencies
Your parenting style: What do you get when you mix the girl next door, a rock ‘n’ roll groupie, a pageant queen, a fembot, and your childhood best friend? Add a couple tattoos, a karate black belt, or at least one unexpected personal skeleton in the closet (a regrettable piercing, a Trekkie membership) and you’ve got the Aquarius mom — in all her eclectic glory.
The Aquarius mother is a curious character who’s impossible to put in a box. You’re affectionate yet aloof, stern yet spontaneous, the world’s mellowest control freak. You’re a unicorn-riding Pollyanna who sings about rainbows and sunbeams; yet you can be the snarkiest cynic on the block. You specialize in organized chaos, and your parenting can be subject to change without notice. Life with an Aquarius mom can range from adventurous to batshit crazy, but it’s never boring. You view your existence as a grand journey, and you want your children to experience a magical utopia for as long as possible — one fashioned from your own vivid imagination.
Your ruling planet is unconventional Uranus, which is associated with emotional detachment, rebellion, and surprises. “Expect the unexpected” could be your mothering motto, at least until you get your bearings. Aquarians are known for being uncomfortable with intimacy — you’re the sign of casual connections and friendship, so you’re more at ease be- longing to the world, not just one little person. So one of the biggest surprises of motherhood is the depth of emotion it can bring up. You might weep sentimentally one minute, then put on your game face the next, becoming as steely as a basketball coach during the last thirty seconds of playoffs. Hot and cold are your default settings — even if you give the appearance of being easygoing and agreeable. It could take a while before you find an even keel as a mother.
At the same time, your fourth house of motherhood is governed by traditional Taurus. This cocoons your quirky-cool style in practical, earth sign energy — envision a white picket fence built around a VW bus. In fact, your nomadic sign might just crave security and roots for the first time when the kids come.
Of course, being in the moment isn’t always easy. The present and the past are not the Aquarius mom’s domain, and you can seem downright unsentimental or checked out at times. The remedy? Make sure you maintain a strong individual identity, even after you be- come a mom. While this is necessary for any mother, it’s especially vital for outgoing Aquarius to nurture your youthful and social ways. If you loved going to music festivals, sports games, gallery openings, or on long girls’ week- ends out of town, then find a way to keep that up. Ditto for your quirky sense of style. Skip the soccer mom look and keep rocking your cool vintage ankle boots, kitty-eared ski hats, and halter maxi-dresses. If you try to be the perfect Happy Homemaker, you’ll only want to rebel, and motherhood will feel like a trap. Find the right balance between honoring your individuality and being a source of consistency in your children’s lives.
Strengths as a mom: Adventure, wisdom, humor, perspective
Weaknesses as a mom: Impatience, crudeness, bluntness, too much spontaneity and lack of structure
Your parenting style: As the zodiac’s freest spirit, parenting is an interesting adjustment for you. Spontaneous Sagittarians live in the moment, acting on impulse and instinct. You cherish your independence, and this new level of permanence can feel surreal. Who, you — a disciplinarian? An authority figure? Parenting is a big lifestyle change for this sign. While you can be wonderful with children, treating them like real people instead of patronizing them, kids also demand a lot of time and energy. Your pencil-it-in-now-and-see-how-we-feel-later lifestyle just doesn’t cut it anymore. Even if you’re great at planning, your own life may already run on a packed schedule. Now you have to integrate an- other person’s needs and demands into this active routine.
Getting the proportions right could take a minute. Ruled by Jupiter, planet of excess and abundance, Sagittarians tend to overcommit (and work until exhaustion) or to avoid commitment altogether. You’re famous for shooting first and asking questions later. This daredevil spirit is a double-edged sword when it comes to motherhood. On the upside, your spontaneity makes life fun. You’ll toss the kids in the car and drive to the next state to buy fireworks or see a traveling circus. You’ll serve pancakes with whipped cream for dinner and leftover Chinese for breakfast (hey, at least they ate, right?). And you can pull together an impromptu vacation or slumber party like no other mom. But when it comes to planning and structure … not so much.
So how does the zodiac’s party girl morph into the PTA president? Hello, existential identity crisis … or maybe not. The best strategy a Sag mom can take is the “if you can’t beat ’em, join ’em” approach — or what the experts call parallel play. Repainting the kitchen for the ninth time? Hand your babe a brush and a little bucket of color, and give him a corner to coat. Planting an English garden? Get a pint-sized watering can, a couple of small pots, and cultivate a young green thumb. Bonus: You’ll foster a sense of leadership, build skills, and enjoy a shared sense of accomplishment from completing a project together. Remember, your kids just want to be with their mom, feeling close, and connected. Integrate them into your adventures, and presto — you have an intergenerational win-win.
Yes, when “freedom” is your middle name, dealing with a dependent child and a tight schedule could require new muscles. As our Sagittarius friend Amanda likes to say, “I’m a person who happens to be a mother — not a mother who happens to be a person.” When all else fails, remember: there’s not always much dignity in motherhood, so use your innate sense of humor to see the divine comedy in it all.
Strengths as a mom: Compassion, imagination, nurturing, creativity
Weaknesses as a mom: Kookiness, manipulation, instability, guilt
Your parenting style: Hello, mermaid mommy! The Pisces mother is a seductive siren and an earth mother rolled into one glamorous package. You love to ensconce your family in a cozy but luxurious bubble, and chances are you’ll have a well-appointed home and wardrobe to match. Even in sweatpants, you manage to look coiffed and ready for your close-up most days. Fortunately, you emanate enough warmth to be enchanting rather than intimidating to other moms. Even if you can be fastidious in your tastes, your door is always open to the world. Watery Pisces is the zodiac’s last sign. You’re empathic and ethereal, spiritual and sensitive, wise and emotionally intelligent. You know how to treat yourself like a goddess — and you’ll encourage the mothers around you to do the same.
The Pisces mother has quirks, and plenty of them. Your heart is always in the right place — even if your head isn’t. It’s exactly this Alice in Wonderland-type of unreality that makes you such a magical mama, turning family time into a floating Mad Hatter tea party. There are no typical days in your household, and your kids might be in awe of what you pull out of that rakish chapeau. Enchanting vacations, road trips, outings — you can come up with these ideas in your sleep. Will they be decadent or disastrous? You’ll find out once you do it. Albert Einstein, a Pisces, famously said, “The true sign of intelligence is not knowledge, but imagination.”
The downside to your freewheeling style, however, can be a lack of boundaries or stability. You can be a little too out there, embarrassing your kids as they get older or making them anxious from the unpredictable changes and lack of structure. Since you hate being told what to do and when to do it, you may struggle to get your kid on a regular bedtime and meal schedule or to give them enough of the consistency that kids crave. Your best bet is to have a partner, grandparent, or caregiver help enforce these routines if you feel oppressed by this facet of parenting.
Your kids always know that you have their backs, however, and there’s no sacrifice you wouldn’t make for their happiness. Your children will definitely grow up with a healthy sense of self-worth as a result of your adoration (in some cases, a little too healthy, but so be it). In your eyes, they can do no wrong, and you’re there to soothe them, spoil them, and cheer on their every accomplishment. Some Pisces mothers elevate their kids onto quite a pedestal; you may or may do this yourself, but you cherish every moment that you spend with them. Although you have your own life, you’ll maintain closeness with your kids over the years. Mom, best friend, social director, and confidante: You do it all and make it look effortlessly chic.