Of course it isn’t fun to be a big old bucket of hurt. What I have learned in life is that the times that drag us down leave us super hungry for change. Think back to a time when you thought you were never going to make it. It might have been the death of a loved one, a lost dream job, or a battle with substance abuse.
It could be something entirely different. The events are in a way irrelevant. My point mainly that we survive. Our human condition allows for us to ride the waves – low and high – and still survive. We may even be better for it. Here are 4 things to practice when you’re falling apart.
ONCE YOU FALL APART THOUGH, START PUTTING THOSE BEAUTIFUL PIECES BACK TOGETHER AND CREATE AN EVEN LOVELIER DESIGN WITH YOUR LIFE.
LET ADVERSITY AWAKEN COMPASSION AND WISDOM
Adversity builds a zest for life and an appreciation for when things really are going great. In fact, adversity may be just what we needed to light a fire under us. In those moments when we think we can’t make it through, we are actually gaining a new perspective. The next time someone is going through a tough time, you will be there with a unique empathy for them. You will heal a little bit yourself.
Even if you have to say it through gritted teeth, simply say “Thank You” to life for giving you adversity. The payoff may not be immediate, but you will be wiser and more compassionate. Your soul may soften a bit. Your experience can be of benefit to others, and love in your heart will grow.
CRY OVER WHAT YOU LOST, BUT HAVE FAITH IN WHAT WILL BE
Part of letting yourself be authentically raw, and authentically human is feeling grief. You may have lost some aspect of your life that really meant the world to you. You may not know your own spiritual identity when you are falling apart. Lean on a friend, and cry your eyes out. It doesn’t matter. Let your soul’s purifying process do its work.
After the tears have dropped out, clear your eyes and look to the future. Although living in the moment is the practice – have hope that something even better may come out of this rough patch. The universe didn’t close a door on you just to leave you out in the cold, and bring you this far just to leave you on the ground. Life is a process of fluid change and an abundance of possibilities.
DON’T FOR A MINUTE FORGET YOUR TRUE NATURE
Love. It’s all Love. Every little thing is composed of love. Life energy. Call it whatever you like to. The point being, this force of life that moves through all of us, wants the best for us. I once had a dear friend come over to my house for tea. She told me that the same energy that made the trees grow, made the wind blow, and heated the sun – was also in me! This essence is our true nature! Remember your true nature is the same calm of the mountains, the same cleansing energy that washes things away with the rain. Life is short, don’t over think it. Remember your true nature – Love.
REALIZE NOT ALL IS LOST
Even if something huge came crashing down on your world, not all is lost. A friend of mine recently lost a job that she had for 24 years. I began watching her to see if tears would well up in her eyes, or if she would be a complete wreck. She was smiling. I asked her what was running through her hamster wheel. “You know I had that job for 24 years. I learned so much here. I learned how to be a better wife, a better mom, I supported myself through tears and joy. It was a great run. Now it’s time for something new!” I think the takeaway here is that it isn’t always what we lost, but what we gained. If we focus on the things that are good, we can see past the hurt and anguish of a loss.