The more connected the world becomes, the more options we have: more food options, beverage options, clothing options, housing options… You name it, and you’ll find endless options and variations on whatever. We also have more options when it comes to potential partners. Or maybe we now have more access to potential partners. The world is getting smaller and, like everything else, the competition will only get harder.
You used to only be competing with people in your town or city. Now, you have to compete with just about every potential partner in the world. If you want to end up with the love of your life, you need to make a lasting impression.
Here are eight ways to do just that:
1. You’re beautiful — inside and out.
Society seems to believe that outer beauty is objective and inner beauty is subjective, but it’s exactly the opposite.
You can measure inner beauty rather simply — if she’s compassionate, vivacious and intelligent, then she’s beautiful on the inside. If not, then she isn’t.
Outer beauty, on the other hand, relies on the eye of the beholder. The beauty of this is that anyone can be beautiful inside and out, anyone can find someone who believes and understands you’re beautiful inside and out.
2. You’re smarter than he is, but you don’t make him feel dumb.
It’s difficult for me to say that every man is looking for a woman with a higher IQ, but I’m rather certain that every man is looking for a woman who can teach him things — someone he can admire and, in a way, look up to. The same thing goes for women.
We all want a partner we admire. No matter how big our egos are — or because our egos are so big — we want to spend our lives with someone we find to be better than ourselves. We believe we deserve better than ourselves — someone who makes us better.
3. You’re a tough cookie with a soft center.
What we can we say…. we’re guys and we want the best of both worlds. We want a woman who is both strong and aggressive, soft and delicate. Of course, this takes a certain mentality and not too many women — or people, in general — manage to be strong, aggressive and compassionate.
It’s most certainly doable, but takes focus and self-awareness — things which, let’s be honest, a lot of people refuse to have.
4. You’re independent, but you’re willing to work together.
I’ll let you ladies in on a little secret (just don’t mention where you got the information from): Men only crave you when they can’t have you.
This isn’t to say they don’t want you when they can have you because that’s what love is.
In order to keep romantic love alive, to keep the passion alive, you don’t want your man to just want you, you want him to crave you. Need you. If you can become his drug, he’ll never even think about leaving you.
5. You’re unpredictable, but you’ll always be there for him.
The thing about predictability is that it’s boring. No one enjoys predictable because we already know the outcome. We’ve already seen this episode and just aren’t as interested in watching it as we were the first time around. This is just the way our minds work. Most minds, anyway.
No one enjoys predictability because it fails to excite us. At the same time, however, we all want a partner who’s reliable.
We want her to be there for us when we need her to. If you can manage to keep him guessing, but never fail to be there to support, then he’ll see you as one in a million.
6. You inspire and motivate him.
To feel alive is to be alive, and to be alive is to be moving — what doesn’t move, doesn’t live. Relationships themselves are living things — just as any system is, in a sense, a living thing.
For this reason, we all need to feel as if our relationship is continuously moving forward, that things are happening and that we are living our lives to the fullest. We don’t want to be with someone who makes us feel stagnant.
The best way of avoiding this is to proactively be active and positive. Motivate and inspire him to be better and he’ll return the favor — a perfect synergy.
7. You’re both passionate and driven.
Nothing makes a man feel more alive than a woman striving to live life to the fullest. A woman who knows what she wants out of life and is more than willing to do what it takes to make her dream life her reality.
Not only is it incredibly sexy, it also helps us remain clear on what direction we want our lives to go. Of course, not every woman is clear on what she wants out of life.
Men are more than happy with a woman who’s passionate about finding herself and finding what she believes to be most important in life — as long as she’s willing to explore life together.
8. You give him a reason to wake up in the morning.
It all comes down to this: how much he loves you. All the factors I’ve mentioned do play into how much a man will love you — because in the end, we all want what’s best for ourselves — but what it all boils down to is how amazing and one of a kind he believes you to be.
Everyone is a little different and will find different things appealing or necessary in a partner. If the two of you are a great match, the rest you can both work on together.