We all have some level of stress in our lives, it’s pretty much unavoidable. Try as we might, to keep stress from affecting our personal relationships, sometimes it sneaks into our lives in ways that we might not even realize. You can do everything imaginable to leave stress at the door when you get home, but it still finds its way in. The only thing that is more important that managing stress effectively is being aware of the fact that it’s bleeding into our relationships. Here are some warning signs that the stress from your daily life is affecting your relationship:
Stress is a libido killer for sure. Stress is exhausting. Stress burns us out. The last thing you want to think about when you’re exhausted is sex. This disconnection of intimacy can have startling effects on your relationship. When you aren’t “in the mood” your partner can see this as a sign of personal rejection. No matter how much you try to reassure them that it’s not their fault, those feelings of rejection can lead to resentment.
Again, because stress exhausts us, often times people will emotionally detach themselves from everything in their lives – including their relationships. If you’ve ever been in this situation with someone it can feel like dating a robot. A key component of a relationship is a healthy emotional connection, so when there is no emotion there at all, relationships suffer.
LOSS OF CONNECTION
When you’re in a relationship with someone, you begin to become “in tune” with them. It’s the little things, like finishing their sentences, or knowing the right thing to say at the right time. As stress takes over, that connection gets broken. All of the sudden it seems like you can’t say the right things at all. Everything you try seems to make it worse. You try your best to understand what is going on, but a lot of times it just doesn’t make sense.
When stress has infiltrated your relationship, and some of these other symptoms start to arise, typically your partner will start to try to figure out what is going on. By addressing that there is a problem and trying to fix it can actually create more stress in the relationship itself. This particularly vicious cycle leads to anxiety between the partners. If the thought of being around your partner causes you anxiety because you know they are just going to be trying to figure out what is going wrong with the relationship, then it is is possible that stress has already made it’s way into your relationship.