Four Proven Ways To Fall In Love With Your Significant Other All Over Again

Too many couples wait until there is a crisis to rekindle their marriage. I, however, am a huge fan of ongoing marriage maintenance. Much like a car, investing in regular check-ups can keep the whole thing from falling apart in a traumatic and expensive way. When things are going smoothly, and our connection is properly cared for, all it takes is a warm smile or a long kiss for us to make up after an argument. When a relationship is neglected, the solution becomes much more drastic and complex.



Engaging in a novel experience together – especially a physical one – can inject your union with a much-needed dose of excitement. Studies have shown that activities which produce adrenaline – such as riding a roller coaster or rafting down a river – can also promote attraction and arousal. This is a perfect way to escape from a rut (we all fall into them from time to time) and see your partner with new eyes.


In the rush of everyday life, it can be easy to snap at your partner with sarcasm or a harsh tone. Your frustration with a certain situation may come across as anger with your partner and create an unintended and unnecessary conflict. This is especially true for new parents and couples who work long hours. Stress and sleep deprivation can transform us into much less pleasant versions of ourselves.

Most of us would be surprised at how we look and sound during these moments. Often, we treat our significant other with less kindness and consideration than we would a stranger. Spend one week being conscious of your non-verbal communication with your partner. Concentrate on a loving tone of voice and body language, and see how it changes your daily communication.


Kind touches, researchers say — such as an arm around your partner’s shoulders or a high-five — can communicate an even wider range of emotion than facial expressions. They can also do the job more quickly and accurately than words. Couples who touch often reported more satisfaction with their relationship, and were less stressed when it came to solving problems – the everyday kind that take their toll on most marriages.

“We think that humans build relationships precisely for this reason, to distribute problem solving across brains,” said James A. Coan, a a psychologist at the University of Virginia. “We are wired to literally share the processing load, and this is the signal we’re getting when we receive support through touch.” A touch of the hand says more than “I like you.” It also says “I’m in your corner, I’ve got your back, and I’m here to help you carry this load.”


Ask your spouse first date questions, and get to know him a little bit better. You’ll be surprised at the things you discover. These questions are a good place to start, as they have been scientifically proven to deepen your sense of intimacy. This concept doesn’t end with the conversation, though.

Dress up and put on perfume as if you’re trying to make a good first impression. Break out your best lingerie for confidence. If the date goes really well, you can make out in the car like teenagers. How many married couples do that on the regular?

“It’s almost never too late to start the process of falling in love all over again,” says James Córdova, Ph.D., chair of Clark University’s psychology department and head of Clark’s Center for Couples & Family Research. “One of the things that happens in long-term marriages is that the demands of everyday life steal our attention away from our partners — and paying attention to the other is crucial for happy relationships.” Don’t let the demands of everyday life steal the joy from your relationship. Bring back the magic.

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