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When you make a mistake, big or small, cherish it like it’s the most precious thing in the world. Because in some ways, it is. Most of us feel bad when we make mistakes, beat ourselves up about it, feel like failures, get mad at ourselves. And that’s only natural: most of us have been taught from a young age that mistakes are bad, that we should try to avoid mistakes. We’ve been scolded when we make mistakes — at home, school and work. Maybe not always, but probably enough times to make...

by School Of Life on 24 September 2016

Suppose your child misbehaves right in front of you, but you say nothing. Or suppose you manage people at work, and you notice one of your underlings making a serious mistake, but you don’t bother to bring it to his/her attention. That’s silent approval. Obviously there are problems when using silent approval to reinforce negative results from other people, but it can be even worse when you use silent approval on yourself. What problems in your life do you witness often, but instead of consciously...

by School Of Life on 24 September 2016

“I regret tomorrow more than yesterday” – from “Long Way Home” by ATB The above is one of my favorite song lines. Do you ever regret the future before it has even happened? When you regret, fear, or worry about the future, you project your consciousness beyond the present moment. Essentially you become unconscious because you lose awareness of the present moment, and consequently, you lose awareness of the real you, which exists only in the present. The future is something of an illusion...

by School Of Life on 24 September 2016

Relationships are possibly the most complicated things in our lives. From long-standing battles with co-workers to the history of scars and joys we have with our significant others to the frustrations and miracles of parenting, every relationship becomes a multitude of layers of meaning and past actions and the emotions that result from those actions. How can we simplify those relationships? By learning to be present, and forget about past injustices. By giving up our complicated expectations...

by School Of Life on 17 September 2016

Life isn’t a competition. It’s a journey. If you spend that journey always trying to impress others, to outdo others, you’re wasting your journey. Instead, learn to enjoy the journey. Make it a journey of happiness, of constant learning, of continual improvement, of love. Don’t worry about having a nicer car or house or anything material, or even a better-paying job. None of that matters a whit, and none of it will make you happier. You’ll acquire these things and then only want more....

by School Of Life on 17 September 2016

Don’t waste a moment of your precious life worrying about what other people think of you. No good can come of people’s approval of you. The truth is that you’ll waste far more energy imagining what people think of you than those people will ever invest in it themselves. Most people are far too preoccupied with their own lives to devote considerable attention to what you’re doing. While you’re worrying about what they think of you, they’re worrying about what you think of them. Just...

by School Of Life on 17 September 2016

‘Act without expectations.’ ~Lao Tzu How much of your stress, frustration, disappointment, anger, irritation, foul mood stems from one little thing? Almost all of it comes from your expectations, and, when things (inevitably) don’t turn out as we expect, from wishing things were different. We build these expectations in our heads of what other people should do, what our lives should be like or look like, how other drivers should behave . . . and yet it’s all fantasy. It’s not real. And...

by School Of Life on 15 September 2016

We’ve all been hurt by another person at some time or another — we were treated badly, trust was broken, hearts were hurt. And while this pain is normal, sometimes that pain lingers for too long. We relive the pain over and over, and have a hard time letting go. This causes problems. It not only causes us to be unhappy, but can strain or ruin relationships, distract us from work and family and other important things, make us reluctant to open up to new things and people. We get trapped in...

by School Of Life on 30 August 2016

There is no magic formula on how to make a relationship work, but here’s a simple list of tips: • spend time alone together; • appreciate each other; • be intimate often; • talk and share and give. But just as important as what you should do is what you shouldn’t do — and I’m sure many of you have stepped into these pitfalls yourselves. I know I have. I’ve learned from my mistakes, and have learned to recognize when I’m making a fatal error, and how to correct it. If you can...

by School Of Life on 15 August 2016

Let Us get into some very important life lessons Life Can Be Cruel There will be people in your life who won’t be very nice. They’ll tease you because you’re different, or for no good reason. They might try to bully you or hurt you. There’s not much you can do about these people except to learn to deal with them, and learn to choose friends who are kind to you, who actually care about you, who make you feel good about yourself. When you find friends like this, hold on to them, treasure...

by School Of Life on 15 August 2016