When you view your life as a series of different compartments, each with different rules, then life gets pretty complicated. Having a harmonious life is very difficult because you constantly feel the need to task switch. My relationship needs attention. Oh no, I’ve been neglecting my health. I need to work harder. I’ve got to stop thinking so much and take more action. The different “bins” of your life are all fighting for your time. And the longer you neglect one of those bins, the louder...

by School Of Life on 22 June 2016

There’s much more to life than basic subjects, and unless you have an exceptional teacher who is willing to break out of the mold, your child isn’t learning the crucial things he or she needs to learn in life. Think about your own experience for a moment. When you got out of high school, did you know everything you needed in order to survive in life, let alone succeed? If you were lucky, you knew how to read and had some basic history and math skills, and if you were even luckier, you had good...

by School Of Life on 22 June 2016

“If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.” – Dalai Lama I believe compassion to be one of the few things we can practice that will bring immediate and long-term happiness to our lives. I’m not talking about the short-term gratification of pleasures like sex, drugs or gambling (though I’m not knocking them), but something that will bring true and lasting happiness. The kind that sticks. The key to developing compassion in your life...

by School Of Life on 18 June 2016

Let’s explore the role of the people in your life. Are they elevating you to be the best person you can be, or are they holding you back? When going through major life shifts, like changing careers, I would shift the people with whom I spent the most time. We’ve all gone through periods where the people in our lives have changed — graduation, moving to a new city, getting a new job, joining a new club, etc. I don’t think I need to convince you just how much influence other people can have...

by School Of Life on 14 June 2016

When was the last time you told your family and close personal friends that you loved them? Don’t let that day come for your loved ones without telling them what they mean to you. I know that for many of us, expressing those kinds of feelings isn’t easy. That’s true for me, but I’ve been trying to overcome those barriers. But even if that’s too difficult for you, I recommend that you just hang out with your family or treasured friends. Talk to them. Listen to them. Understand them. Just...

by School Of Life on 14 June 2016

Are there secrets to happiness? We all want happiness, but we are conditioned to want to be rich (when we know the rich aren’t happy either); we are trained to want the latest gadget or style that television tells us to want; we want to earn more money because then we’ll have the good life. But none of that will bring us happiness. No matter how much we earn, no matter how much we have in the bank, no matter how nice our clothing or cars or toys, none of it will make us happier. And the sad...

by School Of Life on 11 June 2016

How do you deal with difficult, irrational, or abusive people, especially those in positions of authority who have some degree of control over your life? I’ve never met a totally rational human being. Our ability to store and process information is far too imperfect for that. But our emotions are a shortcut. The book Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman describes people diagnosed with alexithemia, the condition whereby people either don’t feel emotions or are completely out of touch with...

by School Of Life on 11 June 2016

What personal stories have you locked away in the secret vault of your mind, vowing never to share them publicly? What would shame you terribly if it were ever posted on the Internet and connected with your real name for anyone to see? What events or habits from your past or present would you feel embarrassed to talk about? This is precisely what you need to share with others — openly and publicly. Authenticity If you can’t share your humiliation publicly, you haven’t gotten over it yet....

by School Of Life on 2 June 2016

You reject the limitations of being a romantic Cassanova, restricted to loving only those who fall for your seductions. You want to love every one. Every single living being. Everything in this miraculous universe. You’re a pure lover! You learn to love it all, in its majestic entirety. You don’t discriminate between the aesthetically beautiful or the squalid, the dirty, the flawed. You don’t require near perfection for your love, nor do you need people to act the way you want them to...

by School Of Life on 31 May 2016

Have you created healthy habits for you, but haven’t gotten your kids or spouse on board? You’re not alone — lots of people get frustrated when their family members don’t want to create healthy habits. I’ve had a bunch of people write to me about this, including one person who wrote about his sons, who are 10 and 12: “They have bad habits with unhealthy food, computer time, and fighting. And I have a very hard time trying to make a change for them. I do not live with their mother, who...

by School Of Life on 19 May 2016