“It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages,” wrote Friedrich Nietzsche. As it turns out, there are plenty of other variables that can make or break your union as well. Emory University researchers Andrew Francis and Hugo Mialon studied over three thousand married couples in hopes of finding commonalities that led to either long lasting unions or quick splits. Their findings, published in this paper and further visualized here by University of Pennsylvania...

by School Of Life on 8 May 2018

Emotional abuse can be difficult to understand and even more difficult to resolve. Unlike physical abuse, the marks are left on the inside, and they can be huge, gaping wounds that can be extremely complex to heal. As one Psychology Today article puts it, emotional abuse begin with one person in the relationship saying, “I’m hurt, and it’s YOUR fault” to the other. Abuse stems easily from there, when one partner is unwilling to be accountable for their own feelings, and instead tries...

by School Of Life on 8 May 2018

The Actions You Take To Show Your Sweetheart That You Love Them Mean More Than Words Issuing Forth From You Mouth Ever Could. Here Are Ten Awesome Ways To Show Your Partner That You Love Them…Without Saying A Word. 1. Act Spontaneously Take the impromptu road trip. Spend an afternoon blowing bubbles and making up silly outdoor games that only make sense to the two of you. Take a fun class together -throw pots, learn to cook something a little different, become amateur stargazers. The point is,...

by School Of Life on 8 May 2018

Just As Certain Behaviors Are Always Attractive, Other Certain Behaviors Always Push People Away. We know you aren’t trying to push people away with these behaviors, so we’re also going to discuss how you can stop and even reverse each one. 1) Being Selfish Selfish behavior may not even be demonstrated outwardly, but if you are pursuing something with a selfish intent, people know you’re doing it. It’s an intuition human beings share: we can tell when someone is trying to get something...

by School Of Life on 8 May 2018

Someone Who Constantly Leaves You Feeling Confused, And Mentally Exhausted But You Just Can’t Pinpoint Why, Is Likely To Be An Emotional Manipulator. Identifying Them For Who They Are Can Be Tricky, But This List Will Help. Have you ever found yourself in a situation with a friend or partner where you doubted yourself because of what the other one firmly believed? Where you honestly knew that you weren’t the one at fault, yet they insisted that it was your actions that led to the disaster...

by School Of Life on 7 May 2018

It’s A Vicious Cycle. Insecurity Leads To Relationship-Threatening Behaviors Such As Jealousy, Neediness, And A Lack Of Self-Respect. In turn, the connection suffers. This fuels more insecurity, and the resulting behaviors become even more troublesome. Often the whole cycle comes to an end when the insecurity becomes too much for the relationship to bear. This Rejection Leads To – You Guessed It – More Insecurity. It’s natural to look to external measures to increase our sense of personal...

by School Of Life on 6 May 2018

Break ups are never easy. Whether you go through the ‘never leaving my bed’ phase or the ‘drinking myself into a coma to numb the pain’ phase, as cliche as it might sound, time really does heal all. Here Are 7 Things That I Have Learned Over The Years That Really Helped Me Heal And Move On After A Breakup. Find Your Passion: It is easy to lose yourself in a relationship, we tend to forget about our own personal needs and desires and become more focused on others. I found that after a...

by School Of Life on 6 May 2018

Nowadays, narcissism has become a popular word. Sometimes it is used to describe an individualism and self-centeredness (What is good for ME and how to get what I want?). Other times the word to describe a lack of capacity in somebody to care about others. Nevertheless, what you have to know is that narcissism is not just a slight deviation from empathy that can be excused with the drive for success. The truth is that narcissism is a serious personality disorder with great toxic power over any...

by School Of Life on 6 May 2018

Relationships Are The Best Teachers. No matter what happens, you learn a lot about yourself, the other person and ideally, the rest of the important people in your life during a romantic relationship. Possibly the coolest parts of a relationship, however, show themselves in ways that are decidedly unromantic. Check Out These 8 Hallmarks Of A Good Relationship That Have Nothing To Do With Googly Eyes, Sweet Nothings And Other Romantic Nonsense: 1. You Call Each Other On Your Bullshit. We all bring...

by School Of Life on 5 May 2018

Having A Romantic Partnership Feels Wonderful. The Only Thing That Can Make It Better Is When Your Partner Is Also Your Best Friend. One relationship expert, Hellen Chen, estimates that 85% of relationships end in a breakup, while 50% of marriages end in divorce. These might seem like tough odds to beat, but if you can get past the honeymoon phase and the initial rough patches, there’s a good chance that your romantic partner is your best friend, too, and you two are in it for the long haul. Here...

by School Of Life on 5 May 2018