You might think that when someone says, “I’m coping,” that it’s not such a big deal. You’d be wrong. The skill of coping is highly underrated, and our inability to cope with difficult feelings can lead to major problems, including health problems, financial ruin, work procrastination, even death. Not such an insignificant skill! How can the lack of coping skills lead to death and other major problems? Well, let’s say that you’re bored and lonely, but don’t know how to cope with...

by School Of Life on 25 May 2016

If you’re in your 20s or even 30s, you might feel a lot of uncertainty all the time — you aren’t sure what your life purpose is, or your uncertain about what path you should take in life. This is normal. We all want to know what our driving ambitions should be in life. We all want to have a certain life purpose. We all want to feel we’re on the right path. We all want to perfect our habits, our routines, our productivity. We all want to feel more certain, and perfect what we’re doing. The...

by School Of Life on 25 May 2016

One of the most common things we all share is disappointment in ourselves. We all feel this, because we constantly fail to live up to our standards: Disappointment in Yourself • We aren’t as disciplined as we’d like. • We don’t stick to habits we’re trying to create. • We aren’t as productive as we plan to be. • We leave small personal tasks and large work tasks undone. • We fail in exercising as much as we’d like, and eating as healthily as we want. • We fail in being...

by School Of Life on 23 May 2016

There’s a small habit that you can practice, that can turn difficult situations into much better ones — and it won’t surprise you. It’s the habit of gratitude. This is such a simple habit, and it’s one that we often forget to practice. But when we do, it can transform our entire perspective, and with it our whole life. When you’re feeling down, and also feeling generally stressed, about situations like being broke or hating your job or unhappy with my health and you’re bit depressed...

by School Of Life on 23 May 2016

Clear goals and objectives are essential to the success of any business, and this is no less true of building your own career. If you don’t take the time to get really clear about exactly what it is you’re trying to accomplish, then you’re forever doomed to spend your life achieving the goals of those who do. In the absence of a clear direction for your life, you will either meander aimlessly or you will build a career that you don’t feel good about. You may make some money, and you may...

by School Of Life on 23 May 2016

There aren’t many of us who don’t have some bad habit we’d like to quit: smoking, sweets, shopping, nail-biting, porn, excessive checking of phones or social media, other distractions … The problem is that we think we don’t have the willpower, faced with past evidence of failure after failure when we’ve tried to quit before. We don’t think we can quit, so we don’t even try. Or if we do try, we give ourselves an “out,” and don’t fully commit ourselves. Let me tell you this:...

by School Of Life on 20 May 2016

One of the biggest frustrations many of us feel is having too much to do, and not feeling like we have enough time to do it. We are overwhelmed. Finding time becomes a major issue. Of course, having “not enough time” is just a feeling — we all have the same amount of time, but we often fill up the container of our days with too much stuff. The problem is having too much stuff to fit into a small container (24 hours). If we look at task management and time management as simply a container...

by School Of Life on 20 May 2016

How do you feel about people who are very successful? What’s your attitude toward the movers and shakers in your field? Do you admire and respect them? Do you speak highly of them? Or are you suspicious of them? Do you criticize or attack them? What’s the true role of these people in your life? What do they represent? Subjectively speaking, your relationship with the most successful people in your reality represents your relationship to success itself. Those people represent your potential...

by School Of Life on 20 May 2016

Have you created healthy habits for you, but haven’t gotten your kids or spouse on board? You’re not alone — lots of people get frustrated when their family members don’t want to create healthy habits. I’ve had a bunch of people write to me about this, including one person who wrote about his sons, who are 10 and 12: “They have bad habits with unhealthy food, computer time, and fighting. And I have a very hard time trying to make a change for them. I do not live with their mother, who...

by School Of Life on 19 May 2016

There are many people who are still trying to figure out their future. They are just wondering how to stop worrying and letting the fear of the unknown totally consumetheir daily thoughts. They are very much scared of the future, even though they have overcome obstacles before. The first thing I would say to them is: You are not alone. Lots of people, young and old, are afraid of the unknown, especially when things are not settled, everything’s up in the air. The second thing I would say is...

by School Of Life on 19 May 2016