If you’re stuck living a life you wouldn’t have consciously chosen if you had it to do all over again, what can you realistically do about it? The Black Hole By “stuck” I mean truly, deeply stuck. You’ve finished school but can’t find a job that is fulfilling. You want to start a business but you just don’t have the resources to start up or maybe you’ve even got the stable job, the family, and the mortgage. But even though your situation looks pretty good from an external standpoint,...

by School Of Life on 14 May 2016

Testing ideas through direct experience is among the best ways to learn and grow. If you want to know if an idea really has merit, test it under real-world conditions. Then you’ll have your answer. For example, suppose you want to ask someone out for a date. One simple test would be to go right up to the person and ask. Within minutes you’ll know the answer. Yes, this is common sense, but how common is it in practice? Unfortunately most of our tests are run only in our minds, and in that realm...

by School Of Life on 13 May 2016

Our feelings are a natural response to our thoughts and intentions. We don’t really choose our feelings directly. Our feelings are a feedback mechanism. They indicate whether we’re moving into alignment with our true desires (positive feelings) or out of alignment (negative feelings). Simply put… we feel good when we’re moving towards what we want, and we feel bad when we’re moving away from what we want. And that movement is more about thought and intention than it is about action. Feelings...

by School Of Life on 8 May 2016

If you work really hard to achieve your goals but don’t enjoy the journey, you’re delaying the essence of life. Committing to your goals doesn’t mean you slave away at work you dislike, celebrating only the destination. A real abiding commitment means that you love what you do each day. You are at least as passionate about the path as you are about the results. If you love the path you’re on, your passion motivates you to keep taking the next step. But passion alone isn’t enough. Passion...

by School Of Life on 6 May 2016

Deciding what to do with your life isn’t remotely easy. Most people never make this decision at all. But since we all end up doing something, if we don’t Choose your life consciously, then a decision will still be made, but it will be an unconscious one. If you don’t decide how you’re going to live, then someone or something else will decide for you. Most likely you’ll yield your life to a combination of unconscious influences, including your genetic predispositions, your upbringing,...

by School Of Life on 6 May 2016

Do you ever mistakenly use your own power against yourself? Instead of focusing your creative energies to fulfill your desires, do you channel those energies into negative thoughts, feelings, and visualizations? If so then you’re succumbing to an abuse of your own power. Here are some common patterns that involve using your power against yourself as well as suggestions for how to stop yourself and make corrective adjustments and claim your power. Complaining When you complain, you’re using...

by School Of Life on 2 May 2016

Self-discipline is the ability to get yourself to take action regardless of your emotional state. Imagine what you could accomplish if you could simply get yourself to follow through on your best intentions no matter what. Picture yourself saying to your body, “You’re overweight. Lose 20 pounds.” Without self-discipline that intention won’t become manifest. But with sufficient self-discipline, it’s a done deal. The pinnacle of self-discipline is when you reach the point that when you...

by School Of Life on 2 May 2016

Perhaps the most important step in quitting the habit of complaining is to disconnect the undesirable behavior of negativity from your identity. A common mistake chronic complainers make is to self-identify with the negative thoughts running through their minds. Such a person might admit, “I know I’m responsible for my thoughts, but I don’t know how to stop myself from thinking negatively so often.” That seems like a step in the right direction, and to a certain degree it is, but it’s...

by School Of Life on 23 April 2016

I’ve read many books that stress the importance of understanding your personal goals, getting clear about what’s most important to you in life. My goal is to explain the process of living with integrity to your goals, so you learn how to consciously use your goals to make decisions and take action.   Why Do Goals Matter? Many people have goals in life but do not know how to go about achieving them. This is because they are not clear where to lay their focus. The main benefit of...

by School Of Life on 19 March 2016