One of the conscious growth principles I’ve been practicing for years is the principle of Love. This principle states that you’ll grow significantly faster — and enjoy the process of growth much more — when your life is rich in supportive, encouraging and positive connections. People violate this principle constantly — and to their detriment when they do so. Partly that happens because they don’t understand this principle deeply enough. Consider two scenarios: Scenario A – You wake...

by School Of Life on 25 May 2016

You might think that when someone says, “I’m coping,” that it’s not such a big deal. You’d be wrong. The skill of coping is highly underrated, and our inability to cope with difficult feelings can lead to major problems, including health problems, financial ruin, work procrastination, even death. Not such an insignificant skill! How can the lack of coping skills lead to death and other major problems? Well, let’s say that you’re bored and lonely, but don’t know how to cope with...

by School Of Life on 25 May 2016

If you’re in your 20s or even 30s, you might feel a lot of uncertainty all the time — you aren’t sure what your life purpose is, or your uncertain about what path you should take in life. This is normal. We all want to know what our driving ambitions should be in life. We all want to have a certain life purpose. We all want to feel we’re on the right path. We all want to perfect our habits, our routines, our productivity. We all want to feel more certain, and perfect what we’re doing. The...

by School Of Life on 25 May 2016

One of the most common things we all share is disappointment in ourselves. We all feel this, because we constantly fail to live up to our standards: Disappointment in Yourself • We aren’t as disciplined as we’d like. • We don’t stick to habits we’re trying to create. • We aren’t as productive as we plan to be. • We leave small personal tasks and large work tasks undone. • We fail in exercising as much as we’d like, and eating as healthily as we want. • We fail in being...

by School Of Life on 23 May 2016

There’s a small habit that you can practice, that can turn difficult situations into much better ones — and it won’t surprise you. It’s the habit of gratitude. This is such a simple habit, and it’s one that we often forget to practice. But when we do, it can transform our entire perspective, and with it our whole life. When you’re feeling down, and also feeling generally stressed, about situations like being broke or hating your job or unhappy with my health and you’re bit depressed...

by School Of Life on 23 May 2016

There aren’t many of us who don’t have some bad habit we’d like to quit: smoking, sweets, shopping, nail-biting, porn, excessive checking of phones or social media, other distractions … The problem is that we think we don’t have the willpower, faced with past evidence of failure after failure when we’ve tried to quit before. We don’t think we can quit, so we don’t even try. Or if we do try, we give ourselves an “out,” and don’t fully commit ourselves. Let me tell you this:...

by School Of Life on 20 May 2016

One of the biggest frustrations many of us feel is having too much to do, and not feeling like we have enough time to do it. We are overwhelmed. Finding time becomes a major issue. Of course, having “not enough time” is just a feeling — we all have the same amount of time, but we often fill up the container of our days with too much stuff. The problem is having too much stuff to fit into a small container (24 hours). If we look at task management and time management as simply a container...

by School Of Life on 20 May 2016

In any given moment, many of us are thinking about what we’re not doing. We feel guilty that we’re not doing more. Worried that we’re not as productive as we could be. Guilty that we procrastinate. We feel guilty that we don’t exercise more, eat right, have better bodies. We worry that we should be doing something better, something more amazing, doing what the amazing people we see online are doing. We worry about what we have to do later, what’s next, where we’re going. We worry about...

by School Of Life on 16 May 2016

It’s easy to get caught up in the pattern of thinking too much about what you don’t want. This includes noticing what you already have in your life but don’t like. If you think often about what you don’t want, it’s a safe bet you’ll make a mess of your life. Thinking about what you don’t want is a trap. Such thoughts can keep you stuck for a very long time. You can seriously blow years — even decades — of your life in the following vicious cycle: 1. Look around and observe what...

by School Of Life on 16 May 2016

Many of us are familiar with the idea of loving our spouses, children, or parents unconditionally — and we might even try to practice that unconditional love, though imperfectly. But do we try to love ourselves unconditionally? Consider whether you do any of these (I sure do): • Criticize your body. • Feel like you need to improve at things. • Feel guilty about things you do. • Feel undisciplined, lazy, unhappy with yourself. • Not feel good enough. • Fear that you’re going to fail,...

by School Of Life on 14 May 2016