When was the last time you told your family and close personal friends that you loved them? Don’t let that day come for your loved ones without telling them what they mean to you. I know that for many of us, expressing those kinds of feelings isn’t easy. That’s true for me, but I’ve been trying to overcome those barriers. But even if that’s too difficult for you, I recommend that you just hang out with your family or treasured friends. Talk to them. Listen to them. Understand them. Just...

by School Of Life on 14 June 2016

Are there secrets to happiness? We all want happiness, but we are conditioned to want to be rich (when we know the rich aren’t happy either); we are trained to want the latest gadget or style that television tells us to want; we want to earn more money because then we’ll have the good life. But none of that will bring us happiness. No matter how much we earn, no matter how much we have in the bank, no matter how nice our clothing or cars or toys, none of it will make us happier. And the sad...

by School Of Life on 11 June 2016

Do you eat while reading? If so, you might have noticed the phenomenon I’ve noticed: sometimes you can eat an entire meal without even really tasting the food. This applies to a lot of things in our lives: we can spend an hour with our family without really talking to them. We can go to a park or the beach, and not really notice the things around us. Here’s a tip that seems so simple, and yet can be difficult to maintain in practice: stop, and notice what you are doing in this moment. Become...

by School Of Life on 9 June 2016

What personal stories have you locked away in the secret vault of your mind, vowing never to share them publicly? What would shame you terribly if it were ever posted on the Internet and connected with your real name for anyone to see? What events or habits from your past or present would you feel embarrassed to talk about? This is precisely what you need to share with others — openly and publicly. Authenticity If you can’t share your humiliation publicly, you haven’t gotten over it yet....

by School Of Life on 2 June 2016

We think we need to improve ourselves and our current situation, because we’re dissatisfied (at least a little bit) with how things are. We have a drive to improve, improve.So we strive for change — exercise more, eat better, read more, be more mindful, do more meaningful work, be more disciplined. And yet, we struggle with change. Why is that? What’s going on? The problem is that we are clinging to the illusion of solidity. Allow me to explain. It turns out that we all want things to be...

by School Of Life on 2 June 2016

Have you ever thought of the present moment as a loved one? I’ve been working with this thought lately, and I find it helpful when I’m feeling rushed, distracted, worried, upset, frustrated, anxious, sad, irritated. Let’s think for a moment about our relationship with this loved one we might call the Present Moment … • We barely pay attention to it, thinking instead of what we have to do later, things we’re worried about, etc. • If it’s boring or uncomfortable, we habitually turn...

by School Of Life on 31 May 2016

Is stress building up in you? Is it lowering the quality of your life a bit? Try this right now: pause in your busy day for a moment to notice how you feel. Is your jaw clenched, your shoulders tight, your body tensed? Do you notice a part of your body that is feeling tension around something you’re worried about or feeling anxiety about? Is there a part of your mind that’s feeling the same kind of tension? Most of us have stress throughout the day in some form, whether we realize it or not....

by School Of Life on 29 May 2016

Something I forget a lot, and have to remind myself about a lot: I’m not on my way somewhere. This moment isn’t just a stepping stone to get to another place. It’s the destination. I’m already here. I’m not on my way to a more important moment. This current moment is the most important moment. This might be obvious to some of you, but I forget a lot. It’s not usually obvious until I remind myself. And even then, it takes some convincing, because I have a tendency to discount this moment...

by School Of Life on 29 May 2016

We all want to do so much: take on every request that people email us, complete our neverending list of tasks and projects, help everyone, travel everywhere, learn a ton of new skills, read every book and watch every good film, be the perfect partner and parent and friend … And yet, we can’t possibly do it all. There isn’t enough time in the day, nor do we have the attention bandwidth to devote to everything. Even if we were perfectly disciplined, we couldn’t possibly get to even half of...

by School Of Life on 27 May 2016

If you’ve ever tried to use a smart phone, or a website, you’re using a user interface. If done well, this interface has been designed to help you do what you want: check your messages, read an article, find information, get stuff done. Our lives have interfaces too. We just don’t often think about it. And just like with badly designed websites, a bad interface for your life can be frustrating, grating, full of friction and confusion. The good news is … you’re the interface designer of...

by School Of Life on 27 May 2016