“Always remember, your focus determines your reality.” – Qui-Gon to Anakin, Star Wars Episode I The quote above, as cheesy as George Lucas’ writing often is, contains a nugget of Jedi wisdom that I’ve repeatedly found to be true. Your focus determines your reality. It’s something we don’t think about much of the time, but give it some consideration now: • If you wake up in the morning and think about the miserable things you need to do later in the day, you’ll have a miserable...

by School Of Life on 5 August 2016

It’s inevitable: sometimes, life just doesn’t go your way. Your schedule gets all messed up. You fail to follow your exercise plan. Someone is mean to you. You feel like quitting something. You want to curl into a little ball and cry. Life deals out its blows, and leaves us discouraged, angry, frustrated, depressed, drained. And once we’re in that bad place, in a mood where we just don’t care about anything, it’s pretty hard to get out of it. But let me share a little secret to happiness...

by School Of Life on 3 August 2016

“Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them – that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.” – Lao-Tzu No matter how much structure we create in our lives, no matter how many good habits we build, there will always be things that we cannot control — and if we let them, these things can be a huge source of anger, frustration and stress. The simple solution: learn to go with the flow. For example,...

by School Of Life on 1 August 2016

Here is a collection of quotes on respect: “Everyone should be respected as an individual, but no one idolized”. – Albert Einstein “Respect for ourselves guides our morals, respect for others guides our manners”. – Laurence Sterne “One of the most sincere forms of respect is actually listening to what another has to say”. – Bryant H. McGill “When you are content to be simply yourself and don’t compare or compete, everybody will respect you”. – Lao Tzu “This...

by School Of Life on 29 July 2016

Whether you’re Christian or not, there’s something in the teachings of Jesus that is worth contemplation, for anyone who seeks to be a better person: his urging that you love your enemy. Not just “Love Thy Neighbor”, which in itself can be a difficult thing. But “Love your enemies”. That’s a powerful message, and it turns out, one of the greatest challenges in life. Why is this message an important one, even if you’re not a Christian? Here in School Of Life, we do not discuss Christian...

by School Of Life on 29 July 2016

Here is a collection of forgiveness quotes: “Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that”. – Martin Luther King, Jr. “Never forget the three powerful resources you always have available to you: love, prayer, and forgiveness”. – H. Jackson Brown, Jr. “The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong”. – Mahatma Gandhi “It’s one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself,...

by School Of Life on 29 July 2016

Do you ever have a feeling that you’re drifting through life, and not going where you want to go? Or that you don’t know how you got where you are today? Living consciously is about taking control of your life, about thinking about your decisions rather than making them without thought, about having a life that we want rather than settling for the one that befalls us. If you’re drifting through life, or feel out of control, or don’t know how you got here … deciding to live consciously...

by School Of Life on 26 July 2016

“Be curious, not judgmental.” – Walt Whitman “I am grateful that I am not as judgmental as all those censorious, self-righteous people around me.” – anonymous We are all judgmental. Yes, even you. I certainly am, many times. I think it’s human nature. And yet, while it is in our nature to be judgmental, I don’t think it’s always useful to us. We look down on others, as if we are so much better … and that creates division between people. Think about it for a second: we see someone,...

by School Of Life on 26 July 2016

How do you handle the situation where the other person continually sucks you into an argument that you never seem to be able to win? In a typical argument, each person tries to prove themselves right and the other person wrong. Of course, we all know what happens in the end — each person only ends up more entrenched in their views, regardless of who seems to deliver the most dominant argument. An argument cannot be won with resistance. You will only strengthen the other person’s resolve. At...

by School Of Life on 26 July 2016

Can you give someone criticism without hurting their feelings or making them angry? Can you do it kindly? I think that’s a difficult proposition for most people, but in truth it’s possible to give criticism with kindness and have a decent chance of having the person take it constructively. Let us look at how to give criticism with kindness, so that the person who receives it is more likely to take it well. We’ll also look at why criticism is often the wrong approach to take: positive suggestions...

by School Of Life on 23 July 2016