School Of Life

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One of the biggest frustrations many of us feel is having too much to do, and not feeling like we have enough time to do it. We are overwhelmed. Finding time becomes a major issue. Of course, having “not enough time” is just a feeling — we all have the same amount of time, but we often fill up the container of our days with too much stuff. The problem is having too much stuff to fit into a small container (24 hours). If we look at task management and time management as simply a container...

by School Of Life on 20 May 2016

How do you feel about people who are very successful? What’s your attitude toward the movers and shakers in your field? Do you admire and respect them? Do you speak highly of them? Or are you suspicious of them? Do you criticize or attack them? What’s the true role of these people in your life? What do they represent? Subjectively speaking, your relationship with the most successful people in your reality represents your relationship to success itself. Those people represent your potential...

by School Of Life on 20 May 2016

Have you created healthy habits for you, but haven’t gotten your kids or spouse on board? You’re not alone — lots of people get frustrated when their family members don’t want to create healthy habits. I’ve had a bunch of people write to me about this, including one person who wrote about his sons, who are 10 and 12: “They have bad habits with unhealthy food, computer time, and fighting. And I have a very hard time trying to make a change for them. I do not live with their mother, who...

by School Of Life on 19 May 2016

There are many people who are still trying to figure out their future. They are just wondering how to stop worrying and letting the fear of the unknown totally consumetheir daily thoughts. They are very much scared of the future, even though they have overcome obstacles before. The first thing I would say to them is: You are not alone. Lots of people, young and old, are afraid of the unknown, especially when things are not settled, everything’s up in the air. The second thing I would say is...

by School Of Life on 19 May 2016

I’ve heard numerous people say they Suck at Habits and I totally get that. The good news is I found a smarter way. I learned to understand that habits are a set of patterns that you just need to repeat until they became more and more automatic … and that setting up the right environment is everything. Let me repeat that: setting up the right habit environment is everything. If you suck at habits right now, that’s because your environment is set up for you to fail. It’s incredibly hard to...

by School Of Life on 19 May 2016

While I’m not a fan of trying to be disciplined every moment of the day, there’s no doubt most of us could use a little more discipline in our lives. We procrastinate, we waste time with online distractions, we go an entire day without getting done what we really wanted to get done. How do we overcome this? With training. Practice small, effective habits, and practice some more. Don’t expect yourself to be perfect at skills if you don’t repeatedly, deliberately practice. If you want to...

by School Of Life on 19 May 2016

In any given moment, many of us are thinking about what we’re not doing. We feel guilty that we’re not doing more. Worried that we’re not as productive as we could be. Guilty that we procrastinate. We feel guilty that we don’t exercise more, eat right, have better bodies. We worry that we should be doing something better, something more amazing, doing what the amazing people we see online are doing. We worry about what we have to do later, what’s next, where we’re going. We worry about...

by School Of Life on 16 May 2016

It’s easy to get caught up in the pattern of thinking too much about what you don’t want. This includes noticing what you already have in your life but don’t like. If you think often about what you don’t want, it’s a safe bet you’ll make a mess of your life. Thinking about what you don’t want is a trap. Such thoughts can keep you stuck for a very long time. You can seriously blow years — even decades — of your life in the following vicious cycle: 1. Look around and observe what...

by School Of Life on 16 May 2016

With respect to goals, projects, and other to-do items, it’s easy to get stuck too long in the thinking and planning phase. You can sit around writing and rewriting your goals, delving into your subconscious mind, working through emotional blocks, praying … whatever. But if you don’t eventually get into action, you’re wasting your time. How can you get into a sustainable mode of direct action without feeling like you have to torture yourself to get moving? What can you do to cross the barrier...

by School Of Life on 16 May 2016

Are there people who constantly criticize you, tell you that you can’t do things, make you feel bad about yourself, even yell at you? These are toxic people. Dealing with them is never easy, but it’s such a difficult problem that it’s worth looking at some strategies you might consider. I’ve used a number of strategies in my life, and I’ll share what I’ve tried: Practice self-compassion when you’re feeling bad. Think about it: if you’re feeling bad because of someone else’s behavior,...

by School Of Life on 15 May 2016