School Of Life

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Negative thinking, in all its many-splendored forms, has a way of creeping into conversations and our thinking without our noticing them. The key to success, in my humble opinion, is learning to spot these thoughts and squash them like little bugs. Then replace them with positive ones. You’ll notice a huge difference in everything you do. As the Dalai Lama said, “The way to overcome negative thoughts and destructive emotions is to develop opposing, positive emotions that are stronger and more...

by School Of Life on 19 June 2016

Should we or should we not set big, hairy, audacious goals where success is far from certain (at least without the benefit of hindsight)? I for one am grateful for the existence of people who set big goals. Our computers, the Internet, or the various freedoms I enjoy today is because of the existence and drive of “unrealistic” goal setters. If you have a Hitler setting big goals and you don’t have an equally strong goal-setter like Winston Churchill on your side, well, … there won’t...

by School Of Life on 19 June 2016

To die happy, you must live life with that end in mind. Live a life of purpose. That’s easier said than done, of course. In this post, I’ll look at a great way to find that purpose in your life, and to live every day with that purpose in mind, and to align your daily actions with that purpose. First ask why But first, let’s ask the obvious question: “Why does this matter?” Let’s consider for a moment the life that most of us lead: we get up in the morning, we do what we have to do for...

by School Of Life on 19 June 2016

“If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.” – Dalai Lama I believe compassion to be one of the few things we can practice that will bring immediate and long-term happiness to our lives. I’m not talking about the short-term gratification of pleasures like sex, drugs or gambling (though I’m not knocking them), but something that will bring true and lasting happiness. The kind that sticks. The key to developing compassion in your life...

by School Of Life on 18 June 2016

It’s fair to say that if you don’t know your purpose in life, you won’t be spending much time working on it. So what will you end up doing with your working time instead? Three things: 1) Working on your needs, 2) Working on other people needs, 3) Working on other people’s purposes. If you don’t know your purpose, the limit of the work you do for yourself will be stuck at the level of need, which at best has the potential to grow into greed. Not particularly fulfilling spending your whole...

by School Of Life on 18 June 2016

One value that seems to hold a lot of people back from setting and achieving big goals is the need for security. Security is a feeling of certainty that everything is OK and that all your basic needs will be provided for. On the surface there’s nothing wrong with that. It’s great to feel secure. Abraham Maslow lists it as one of the basic human needs. If we don’t feel secure, we can’t move onto higher levels like love and self-actualization. If we have doubts about paying the rent at the...

by School Of Life on 17 June 2016

Let’s explore the role of the people in your life. Are they elevating you to be the best person you can be, or are they holding you back? When going through major life shifts, like changing careers, I would shift the people with whom I spent the most time. We’ve all gone through periods where the people in our lives have changed — graduation, moving to a new city, getting a new job, joining a new club, etc. I don’t think I need to convince you just how much influence other people can have...

by School Of Life on 14 June 2016

When was the last time you told your family and close personal friends that you loved them? Don’t let that day come for your loved ones without telling them what they mean to you. I know that for many of us, expressing those kinds of feelings isn’t easy. That’s true for me, but I’ve been trying to overcome those barriers. But even if that’s too difficult for you, I recommend that you just hang out with your family or treasured friends. Talk to them. Listen to them. Understand them. Just...

by School Of Life on 14 June 2016

What is your career? Forget about how you define this to others for now, and just think for a bit about how you define your career to yourself. What does it mean to you to have a career? Is it just your job? Is it something you do to make a living? Is it what you do for money? Is it your work? Most people would define a career as more than a job. Above and beyond a job, a career is a long-term pattern of work, usually across multiple jobs. A career implies professional development to build skill...

by School Of Life on 14 June 2016

Are there secrets to happiness? We all want happiness, but we are conditioned to want to be rich (when we know the rich aren’t happy either); we are trained to want the latest gadget or style that television tells us to want; we want to earn more money because then we’ll have the good life. But none of that will bring us happiness. No matter how much we earn, no matter how much we have in the bank, no matter how nice our clothing or cars or toys, none of it will make us happier. And the sad...

by School Of Life on 11 June 2016