If you’re not happy with yourself, you can’t be happy with anyone else either.
Maybe the reason why you can’t seem to find any success in your relationships is that you just aren’t ready for one. There’s no point in trying to force the issue here. IF you aren’t ready to be in a relationship, then it’s never going to work out no matter how much love or effort you’re going to put into it.
You have to start focusing on yourself and fixing the broken parts of yourself that badly need mending. You have to learn to grow and mature as an individual before you start taking on the responsibilities of a relationship.
A lot of people will be so desperate to get into relationships, they will blind themselves to the fact that they just aren’t ready for it. They will fool themselves into thinking that they are capable of handling the pressure that comes with being in a relationship only to find themselves crumbling in the end. Be wary. You might be one of those people. If you keep finding yourself on the losing side of relationships, then maybe you should take a break and reflect. Use this time to pore over your life and assess whether you’re really ready for a relationship or not. Here are a few signs that you just aren’t ready to be in a relationship yet.
1. You aren’t happy living the single life.
You can’t be in a relationship just so you can treat it as an escape from the single life. You have to develop a certain sense of happiness and contentment even though you’re single. You can’t use a relationship as an escape rope from unhappiness. You have to learn how to be happy alone before you can be happy in a relationship.
2. Your life isn’t exactly in order.
If you feel like you’re a complete mess at the moment, then maybe it wouldn’t be the best idea for you to be dating. Besides, if you’ve got too much on your plate as it is, maybe a relationship would only complicate things further for you.
3. You aren’t financially stable.
Relationships are expensive. Don’t doubt it. If you feel like all of your finances are all out and whack, then maybe you should take the time to have some sense of financial stability first. You don’t want to have your relationship crumble in the long run because of your money problems.
4. You are still carrying some emotional weight from previous relationships.
Burn your bridges. Don’t carry any grudges. Leave all your emotional woes from previous relationships where it rightly belongs; in the past. You can’t afford to be bringing any emotional baggage from previous relationships into new ones. You are only going to end up sabotaging your chances at a long-term relationship by doing so.
5. You haven’t come to terms with the dark side of your personality yet.
You have to acknowledge that you aren’t a perfect person. If you don’t realize that by now, then you have some serious growing up to do. You have to be able to understand that you have your flaws and that there is a dark side to your personality. If you are oblivious to these facts, then you just aren’t ready to be in a relationship.
6. You still have an immature understanding of what love really is.
You still think that love is going to be something straight out of a Nicholas Sparks novel. You think that it’s always going to be fireworks, cotton candy, and rainbows. You don’t know that love and relationships are tough. They require lots of time, effort, and commitment. If you think that it’s always going to be smooth-sailing, then you are in for a rude awakening.
7. You tend to run away from your problems.
You are going to encounter a few speed-bumps in your relationship. If you are the type of person who runs away from your problems or who sweeps them under the rug, then you just aren’t ready to be in a relationship at all.
8. You are still trying to build a foundation for your career.
If you are still trying to launch your career, then maybe it wouldn’t be wise for you to have your attention divided. You should focus on your work life and actually setting up a solid foundation for your future. Maybe once things settle down, you can start thinking about entering the dating scene.
9. There is still much about yourself that you have yet to discover.
You still don’t know what you want out of life. You don’t know what you’re looking for in a partner. You don’t know what standards you are setting for your relationships. These are things about yourself that you need to have figured out before you actually start dating.
10. You have trouble making commitments.
Relationships are all about committing to each other and to the love that you share. If you find yourself unable or unwilling to commit to it, then you just aren’t ready for it yet.
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